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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 128811" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>trinityroyal-you reminded me of something intersting that happened.</p><p></p><p>In theory when there is a person in a wheelchair etc around, people will be extra courteous, hold open doors etc? Oh my, I found out that is NOT always the case! Now from talking with others who use wheelchairs etc, many dislike the extra "niceness" and find it humiliating, but, hey I was new to scooter use and could use a hand sometimes. </p><p>Well, ooooh boy, were my eyes opened. </p><p>In my own town here, (which I later found out has been dubbed "Rudestock" by people from all over the world, when they post about my town online) It is VERY rare for ANYONE to hold a door for someone on crutches, or in a wheelchair or on a scooter. In fact, I find MORE people seem to cut me off, (or I watch them cut others off in wheelchairs etc) permitting dorrs to slam in my face. UG! I went to an outdoor country music concert once, my husband was in a scooter, and YIKES later at nite, a young couple, drunk, leaned against him and um....engaged in um......some horizontal danceing? Leaning on my scooterbound husband! Yeesh. AT various parades and fireworks displays when I was in my scooter, I also had strange experiences. Often small children would come along and plop themself ON my scooter. (as if it were a public seat) </p><p></p><p>when I go to our courthouse at security checkpoint, they tell me get up, we have to scan your scooter seprately. Hm, well if I COULD get up THAT easily, why would I be on my scooter? (my husband has found same to be tru if he goes with his walker) </p><p></p><p>when I was at U of I chicago, another man in a scooter intentionally crashed into me in mine.....so as to cut in line ahead of me. When I was trying to get the elevator, I would hit the up button, but before I could get my scooter thru the people to get ON the elevator, the doors would close again. This happened 7-8 times before I was finally able to get thru the other people and board an elevator. They must have found it amuseing? </p><p></p><p>when I had my son at pre surg for his eye, when it first happened- I was on my scooter and going back to room, a doctor said to me, hey lady you cannot take your child back to prep room with you I was like uh, HE is the patient, I am his mom. I guess they simply assumed the person on a scooter would be the patient?</p><p></p><p>When my dtr was haveing IEP meetings in middle school, her school was 2 stories, so it did not have an elevator. They held her IEP meetings on 2nd floor. I FINALLY got them to understand it was illegal for them to have them in a place I could not access..but then, when they moved them to first floor? They held them in a room that was so small, my scooter could not get INTO the room......yeesh. </p><p></p><p>Last week when I was in court for my mothers estate probate, another lady was in court in a wheelchair. She was sitting in the aisle, becuz there was no room for her wc to go further. the judge called her case and ACK! across the entire crowded courtroom, he yellled across to her and she had to yell back aross to the judge. YEESH! </p><p></p><p>So, even with non hidden disabilities there is a good amount of weirdness to life. and people can still be quite non understanding and rude. I guess then it does make sense that those with hidden disabilities or brain disorders can be treated so badly. </p><p></p><p>With the sensationalism of crimes like the NIU shooting etc, I am afraid people might become more less than nice to our mentally diagnosis'ed kids. :-( It is very sad. Life is hard enough for our kids and for us. I fear it may get harder. I am very afraid people are going to become more afraid and more judgemental.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 128811, member: 1697"] trinityroyal-you reminded me of something intersting that happened. In theory when there is a person in a wheelchair etc around, people will be extra courteous, hold open doors etc? Oh my, I found out that is NOT always the case! Now from talking with others who use wheelchairs etc, many dislike the extra "niceness" and find it humiliating, but, hey I was new to scooter use and could use a hand sometimes. Well, ooooh boy, were my eyes opened. In my own town here, (which I later found out has been dubbed "Rudestock" by people from all over the world, when they post about my town online) It is VERY rare for ANYONE to hold a door for someone on crutches, or in a wheelchair or on a scooter. In fact, I find MORE people seem to cut me off, (or I watch them cut others off in wheelchairs etc) permitting dorrs to slam in my face. UG! I went to an outdoor country music concert once, my husband was in a scooter, and YIKES later at nite, a young couple, drunk, leaned against him and um....engaged in um......some horizontal danceing? Leaning on my scooterbound husband! Yeesh. AT various parades and fireworks displays when I was in my scooter, I also had strange experiences. Often small children would come along and plop themself ON my scooter. (as if it were a public seat) when I go to our courthouse at security checkpoint, they tell me get up, we have to scan your scooter seprately. Hm, well if I COULD get up THAT easily, why would I be on my scooter? (my husband has found same to be tru if he goes with his walker) when I was at U of I chicago, another man in a scooter intentionally crashed into me in mine.....so as to cut in line ahead of me. When I was trying to get the elevator, I would hit the up button, but before I could get my scooter thru the people to get ON the elevator, the doors would close again. This happened 7-8 times before I was finally able to get thru the other people and board an elevator. They must have found it amuseing? when I had my son at pre surg for his eye, when it first happened- I was on my scooter and going back to room, a doctor said to me, hey lady you cannot take your child back to prep room with you I was like uh, HE is the patient, I am his mom. I guess they simply assumed the person on a scooter would be the patient? When my dtr was haveing IEP meetings in middle school, her school was 2 stories, so it did not have an elevator. They held her IEP meetings on 2nd floor. I FINALLY got them to understand it was illegal for them to have them in a place I could not access..but then, when they moved them to first floor? They held them in a room that was so small, my scooter could not get INTO the room......yeesh. Last week when I was in court for my mothers estate probate, another lady was in court in a wheelchair. She was sitting in the aisle, becuz there was no room for her wc to go further. the judge called her case and ACK! across the entire crowded courtroom, he yellled across to her and she had to yell back aross to the judge. YEESH! So, even with non hidden disabilities there is a good amount of weirdness to life. and people can still be quite non understanding and rude. I guess then it does make sense that those with hidden disabilities or brain disorders can be treated so badly. With the sensationalism of crimes like the NIU shooting etc, I am afraid people might become more less than nice to our mentally diagnosis'ed kids. :-( It is very sad. Life is hard enough for our kids and for us. I fear it may get harder. I am very afraid people are going to become more afraid and more judgemental. [/QUOTE]
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