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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 530238" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks for your generous, open-minded words, MWM. We do of course all see the world through our own filter, to some extent - trick is just to know we are doing that, I suppose.</p><p>I really don't want to give the wrong impression with J. I think he's more than just a basically typical kid with excess energy - even if somewhere I would still like that to be all that is going on <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> He is a very <strong>explosive</strong> child, and he saves the explosions up for me. He does not do so from some malevolent intent, of course. SOME of it is just temperament - he has had from babyhood a very strong-willed, intense, dominating kind of character alongside his undeniable sunny, playful, generous and affectionate side. But what this means in practice is that he is periodically what I could categorise under the label EBD - extremely bloody difficult <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Argues with everything, has to have everything his own way, will be rude and insulting when thwarted. This behaviour has got better in general over recent months and he is always quick to apologise after his outbursts, which are definitely made worse by hunger and tiredness - but I think it's all beyond what one could call normal. Since at school all this is under wraps and under control and he is trying hard to please his teacher, no professionals are really very interested in this behaviour or in trying to help me with it at present. Unfortunately because of my own "stuff", I am sometimes quite explosive myself in response to his rudeness and defiance, though I too have got generally better with that, as I have related. I too have my periodic lapses, however... partly because he is so good and sweet and helpful some of the time that I then want him to be that way all the time and keep getting sideblinded by the appearance of the difficult child... </p><p>He is a puzzle because of how well he performs when he has to - most hyperactive kids simply cannot do this as convincingly, even if they want to, I think. I started out on this forum not wanting a label but seeing his skills deficits; now I don't care about having a label and would certainly accept one, but getting it turns out to be problematic... Meanwhile, the skills deficits are definitely there and I am alone with dealing with them, as many of us are. Up to me to do the research, find what works and what doesn't, in response to parenting a child who is both delightful and deeply challenging.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 530238, member: 11227"] Thanks for your generous, open-minded words, MWM. We do of course all see the world through our own filter, to some extent - trick is just to know we are doing that, I suppose. I really don't want to give the wrong impression with J. I think he's more than just a basically typical kid with excess energy - even if somewhere I would still like that to be all that is going on :) He is a very [B]explosive[/B] child, and he saves the explosions up for me. He does not do so from some malevolent intent, of course. SOME of it is just temperament - he has had from babyhood a very strong-willed, intense, dominating kind of character alongside his undeniable sunny, playful, generous and affectionate side. But what this means in practice is that he is periodically what I could categorise under the label EBD - extremely bloody difficult :) Argues with everything, has to have everything his own way, will be rude and insulting when thwarted. This behaviour has got better in general over recent months and he is always quick to apologise after his outbursts, which are definitely made worse by hunger and tiredness - but I think it's all beyond what one could call normal. Since at school all this is under wraps and under control and he is trying hard to please his teacher, no professionals are really very interested in this behaviour or in trying to help me with it at present. Unfortunately because of my own "stuff", I am sometimes quite explosive myself in response to his rudeness and defiance, though I too have got generally better with that, as I have related. I too have my periodic lapses, however... partly because he is so good and sweet and helpful some of the time that I then want him to be that way all the time and keep getting sideblinded by the appearance of the difficult child... He is a puzzle because of how well he performs when he has to - most hyperactive kids simply cannot do this as convincingly, even if they want to, I think. I started out on this forum not wanting a label but seeing his skills deficits; now I don't care about having a label and would certainly accept one, but getting it turns out to be problematic... Meanwhile, the skills deficits are definitely there and I am alone with dealing with them, as many of us are. Up to me to do the research, find what works and what doesn't, in response to parenting a child who is both delightful and deeply challenging. [/QUOTE]
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