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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 530349" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, it is a bit scary <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I am sure I will keep working on my own behaviour and reactions but one of the dilemmas I face with J is how far I see his behaviour as like an illness, something he simply cannot "help" and how far I hold him accountable for it - at the tender age of five. I do need and want him to understand that his rudeness and defiance are unacceptable and sometimes I am too over the top in my own reaction, just making him think he is "naughty" rather than helping him have the skills to behave differently. This is really why these kids are so hard, isn't it? Because they would try the patience of a saint sometimes... When he is clearly tired/hungry, whatever, and has a meltdown, I am now much more able to be patient and understanding with him - when he is obstructive/rude just for the hell of it, as it were (apparently), I still find that REALLY challenging. Work in progress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 530349, member: 11227"] Yes, it is a bit scary :) I am sure I will keep working on my own behaviour and reactions but one of the dilemmas I face with J is how far I see his behaviour as like an illness, something he simply cannot "help" and how far I hold him accountable for it - at the tender age of five. I do need and want him to understand that his rudeness and defiance are unacceptable and sometimes I am too over the top in my own reaction, just making him think he is "naughty" rather than helping him have the skills to behave differently. This is really why these kids are so hard, isn't it? Because they would try the patience of a saint sometimes... When he is clearly tired/hungry, whatever, and has a meltdown, I am now much more able to be patient and understanding with him - when he is obstructive/rude just for the hell of it, as it were (apparently), I still find that REALLY challenging. Work in progress. [/QUOTE]
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