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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 536065" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Why don't you just ASK your mother in law - what she's so afraid of????? </p><p></p><p>(I'm not meaning to be blunt here but she's a woman, in pain, that you love, she's GOT to be scared out of her mind and feeling very ALONE - like every decision she makes is being SCRUTINIZED to the nth degree as if she's not in her right mind.....and will be judged so harshly....I think THAT would scare the he;; out of me MORE than going to the facility.....) </p><p></p><p>If you maybe try to think out of the box for a moment and put yourself into her shoes for a second........</p><p>I'm in pain</p><p>I'm dying</p><p>I'm afraid</p><p>What if I ??? AND IT??</p><p>OR </p><p>What if I ask for ??? ANd they think I'm???? </p><p>THEN THEY MIGHT PUT ME.......XX </p><p></p><p>I can see where someone may mistake I'd like to be comfortable for "GIVE HER A LOAD OF PAIN medications" and it be one upped to - OMG they're going to put me to sleep!!!!!!!! </p><p></p><p>I know a lot of time when DF is in so much pain - he really doesn't think clearly - so when he IS NOT in pain - and has moments of clarity? I talk to him about THE "OKay now - when XYZ happens WHAT would YOU want me to do - IF's" and I know what to do "In case." </p><p></p><p>Takes the guess work out of it all. </p><p></p><p>Again TM - I'm really sorry your family has this traumatic event to go through - Please know I'm thinking of you all a lot, and keeping you in my prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 536065, member: 4964"] Why don't you just ASK your mother in law - what she's so afraid of????? (I'm not meaning to be blunt here but she's a woman, in pain, that you love, she's GOT to be scared out of her mind and feeling very ALONE - like every decision she makes is being SCRUTINIZED to the nth degree as if she's not in her right mind.....and will be judged so harshly....I think THAT would scare the he;; out of me MORE than going to the facility.....) If you maybe try to think out of the box for a moment and put yourself into her shoes for a second........ I'm in pain I'm dying I'm afraid What if I ??? AND IT?? OR What if I ask for ??? ANd they think I'm???? THEN THEY MIGHT PUT ME.......XX I can see where someone may mistake I'd like to be comfortable for "GIVE HER A LOAD OF PAIN medications" and it be one upped to - OMG they're going to put me to sleep!!!!!!!! I know a lot of time when DF is in so much pain - he really doesn't think clearly - so when he IS NOT in pain - and has moments of clarity? I talk to him about THE "OKay now - when XYZ happens WHAT would YOU want me to do - IF's" and I know what to do "In case." Takes the guess work out of it all. Again TM - I'm really sorry your family has this traumatic event to go through - Please know I'm thinking of you all a lot, and keeping you in my prayers. [/QUOTE]
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