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<blockquote data-quote="1 Day At a Time" data-source="post: 363908" data-attributes="member: 3704"><p>Bean,</p><p></p><p>I too am mourning, and I'm sending good thoughts your way as well. I'm a couple of years into a greater acceptance of where difficult child is , and who he is. My old dreams for him are being replaced with ones that I believe are more appropriate for him. We live in a very small community, and difficult child went to school with the same group of kids from pre-K all the way through high school. Everyone knows everyone here, and I'm sad to say, the other kids and parents (for the most part) tend to avoid us. They definitely don't ask us about difficult child. That's really too bad, because we are so very proud of him. We never expected him to graduate from high school - and never dreamed that he would finish even one year of college -which he has done. I'll have to say, though, the social isolation really hurts. It seems to have grown from difficult child to encompass our entire family.</p><p></p><p>husband and I have begun to accept the fact that difficult child will probably be living with us , well unless something radically changes, for the rest of our lives. We're actively planning for his life after we are gone - and instilling all those skill sets that he will need to take care of himself. Of course, we would like some time just to ourselves, but we're working on ways to make it work for all of us. This change of dreams really seems to be a work in process for me. I suppose it might always be that way.</p><p></p><p>Valerie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1 Day At a Time, post: 363908, member: 3704"] Bean, I too am mourning, and I'm sending good thoughts your way as well. I'm a couple of years into a greater acceptance of where difficult child is , and who he is. My old dreams for him are being replaced with ones that I believe are more appropriate for him. We live in a very small community, and difficult child went to school with the same group of kids from pre-K all the way through high school. Everyone knows everyone here, and I'm sad to say, the other kids and parents (for the most part) tend to avoid us. They definitely don't ask us about difficult child. That's really too bad, because we are so very proud of him. We never expected him to graduate from high school - and never dreamed that he would finish even one year of college -which he has done. I'll have to say, though, the social isolation really hurts. It seems to have grown from difficult child to encompass our entire family. husband and I have begun to accept the fact that difficult child will probably be living with us , well unless something radically changes, for the rest of our lives. We're actively planning for his life after we are gone - and instilling all those skill sets that he will need to take care of himself. Of course, we would like some time just to ourselves, but we're working on ways to make it work for all of us. This change of dreams really seems to be a work in process for me. I suppose it might always be that way. Valerie [/QUOTE]
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