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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 521136" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I hear you Kathy. husband and I have often said that difficult child is tortured in hr mind. We knew long ago that she was dealing with issues that she was born with and the drugs and alcohol came long after those issues were firmly entrenched. She really had very little chance and naive as we were we thought environment would change that. It was just recently that I began to understand that difficult child was not doing this to us, she was doing it to herself. It was the thing that finally caused me to be able to step back from the situation and detach from her. I can now go through the day without the awful pit in my stomach like I have to fix her and I can allow her to just be. That may very well mean she is going to end up in jail or die but it's no longer about me and if she loved me she would stop and since she doesn't stop look how she is hurting me. </p><p></p><p>I had one of those raw emotions events when difficult child was in the treatment center and she cried, really cried, for the first time in her life. I wish I could have bottled that moment up and pulled it out whenever difficult child needed it but I couldn't.</p><p></p><p>I wish I knew what would help our difficult child's. I am trying to get to that place in my life where I am at peace with whatever happens but boy is it tough.</p><p></p><p>I hope this week brings some answers or at least some possible options for your difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 521136, member: 59"] I hear you Kathy. husband and I have often said that difficult child is tortured in hr mind. We knew long ago that she was dealing with issues that she was born with and the drugs and alcohol came long after those issues were firmly entrenched. She really had very little chance and naive as we were we thought environment would change that. It was just recently that I began to understand that difficult child was not doing this to us, she was doing it to herself. It was the thing that finally caused me to be able to step back from the situation and detach from her. I can now go through the day without the awful pit in my stomach like I have to fix her and I can allow her to just be. That may very well mean she is going to end up in jail or die but it's no longer about me and if she loved me she would stop and since she doesn't stop look how she is hurting me. I had one of those raw emotions events when difficult child was in the treatment center and she cried, really cried, for the first time in her life. I wish I could have bottled that moment up and pulled it out whenever difficult child needed it but I couldn't. I wish I knew what would help our difficult child's. I am trying to get to that place in my life where I am at peace with whatever happens but boy is it tough. I hope this week brings some answers or at least some possible options for your difficult child. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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