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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 608457" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh Boy JKF, I am so sorry. I think you and your husband are absolutely right in stopping your support at this point. You did everything you possibly could for a very long time to do whatever it took to keep your son safe and to provide him with everything he needed. </p><p></p><p>The thing about some of our kids is that they can't seem to adapt to living in the reality we do. It just is the way it is and at some point, the choices they make and the consequences of those choices have to be placed directly onto their shoulders. It sure sounds as if this is that time for your son. He has done everything possible to sabotage your efforts, even if he is not really intending to hurt you guys with his behavior, he is. That's where the boundaries come in. Ugh. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry JKF, I understand your absolute anger and frustration because you worked so hard for so long. I know first hand how you feel having done a similar thing for my daughter last year.................and now, instead of being in good place as a result of my support, she is in a worse place. I felt the way you do now for awhile too.............it's hard. At some point we have to let go...............it sounds as if this is that time for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 608457, member: 13542"] Oh Boy JKF, I am so sorry. I think you and your husband are absolutely right in stopping your support at this point. You did everything you possibly could for a very long time to do whatever it took to keep your son safe and to provide him with everything he needed. The thing about some of our kids is that they can't seem to adapt to living in the reality we do. It just is the way it is and at some point, the choices they make and the consequences of those choices have to be placed directly onto their shoulders. It sure sounds as if this is that time for your son. He has done everything possible to sabotage your efforts, even if he is not really intending to hurt you guys with his behavior, he is. That's where the boundaries come in. Ugh. I'm sorry JKF, I understand your absolute anger and frustration because you worked so hard for so long. I know first hand how you feel having done a similar thing for my daughter last year.................and now, instead of being in good place as a result of my support, she is in a worse place. I felt the way you do now for awhile too.............it's hard. At some point we have to let go...............it sounds as if this is that time for you. [/QUOTE]
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