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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 608619" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Sounds like you made a wise decision. Obviously giving him a way to start a new life wasn't enough he still wants another pound of flesh. Even though it seems like a great diet plan it really isn't. LOL</p><p></p><p>I have decided basically the same thing with my difficult child. I give her what I can and no more. I don't ask for anything in return and I don't expect it. Basically our conversations start and end with Hi and how are you. Whatever she choses to give me in the way of conversation is all I respond to. I don't ask personal questions or even want to know anymore. It is up to her to let us know what she wants or needs and ask for it. We are no longer trying to assist her with the hurdles now we just say oh I hope your school advisor can help with that. </p><p></p><p>Right now we have a better relationship than we have in years. Of course it has no substance but at the same time we aren't screaming and in the end no one is in pain so I am calling that progress.</p><p></p><p>I wish you the best and hopefully the time apart will help you detach and find peace.</p><p></p><p>PS I also stopped checking anything to do with her out online. It saves my sanity. I deleted my Twitter even though we weren't friends simply because I never used it for anything other than snooping on her. I didn't need it or want it I just used it to try and protect her which absolutely never worked. I can see her checking account but other than to check and make sure the small amount we give her goes into it I don't look at where it is used.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 608619, member: 15473"] Sounds like you made a wise decision. Obviously giving him a way to start a new life wasn't enough he still wants another pound of flesh. Even though it seems like a great diet plan it really isn't. LOL I have decided basically the same thing with my difficult child. I give her what I can and no more. I don't ask for anything in return and I don't expect it. Basically our conversations start and end with Hi and how are you. Whatever she choses to give me in the way of conversation is all I respond to. I don't ask personal questions or even want to know anymore. It is up to her to let us know what she wants or needs and ask for it. We are no longer trying to assist her with the hurdles now we just say oh I hope your school advisor can help with that. Right now we have a better relationship than we have in years. Of course it has no substance but at the same time we aren't screaming and in the end no one is in pain so I am calling that progress. I wish you the best and hopefully the time apart will help you detach and find peace. PS I also stopped checking anything to do with her out online. It saves my sanity. I deleted my Twitter even though we weren't friends simply because I never used it for anything other than snooping on her. I didn't need it or want it I just used it to try and protect her which absolutely never worked. I can see her checking account but other than to check and make sure the small amount we give her goes into it I don't look at where it is used. [/QUOTE]
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