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<blockquote data-quote="BellyKate" data-source="post: 104305" data-attributes="member: 4169"><p>Hi again.</p><p></p><p>Thank you all of for your input !</p><p></p><p>I contacted the school today and will have an appointment with them next week.</p><p></p><p>I'm in Australia... 4 or so hours north of Sydney.</p><p></p><p>I have really gotten a lot from The Explosive Child. I borrowed it from the library and am going to get the local book shop to order it in for me.</p><p></p><p>From what I have read about ADHD I have decided to go for the softer approach with her. For years I have tried so many things and really have ended up caught in that terrible "death roll" with her, both of us struggling to "win". It is such a trap, to want them to acknowledge that you are the boss ("You're not the boss, mum, I am !!" heard that a million times !) and so I have ended up pulling her up on every raspberry she blows, every time she sarcastically blurts out "blah blah blah" when I am talking to her, every time she ignores my request for her to do something. I realise it isn't getting anywhere, have tried to ignore, ended up getting tough again... mostly due to other's opinions. I've decided to ignore the majority of stuff, have one or 2 things I am willing to go through a meltdown over, and a few more things I will compromise over. The thing is, she is insatiable. She wants more and more of everything, flits from thing to thing, wants things at times when it is impossible for me to allow them or give them to her ie. at bedtime she wants to go play with 2 older girls who live in our street. She becomes one-eyed ! She must have these things or the world really feels like it will end. </p><p></p><p>She is incredibly explosive. In the last 2 months she has made holes in the walls, and attacked me in a fit of temper which resulted in me losing half a toe nail (painful!). We have almost daily nuclear reactor meltdowns. She hates to be in the car to drive 20 minutes to her grandparents ~ that has really become a horrible thing for her. The list is long but I am sure you have all heard it before. I have been following the Explosive Child but quite often she will erupt with no warning. I will ask her how she is today or something harmless like that, and she will become a hurricane instantly.</p><p></p><p>I have a lot to learn.</p><p></p><p>A few questions about Aspergers for anyone who has read this far, please...</p><p></p><p>She has no problem AT ALL with eye conduct but socially she shows lack of empathy (ie. has locked children in her room because she didn't want them to stop playing with her, even though the child at the time was hyterically crying and distraught), she has to be in total control of whatever is being played, even down to how the other people playing must say things and what they must say, she still misunderstands when people are joking or being playful with her but not always... it seems to be at unpredictable times. Have trained my father to wink at her when he is joking about with her and this helps a lot. She still puts absolutely everything into her mouth and has been to the emergency ward twice this year for swallowing things. Many, many times a day I have to tell her to take things out of her mouth. She should have outgrown this now. I believe this is called sensation seeking and the psychiatric thinks she does it because it's calming. She has a few main interests but she also shows fleeting interest in loads of things... she can't get enough info about everything ! But her main interests are Bindi Irwin and doing all of her dance routines and songs, even down to imitating her voice perfectly. We all have to play this Bindi "game" a lot. Anything Bindi says, my daughter becomes obsessed with. I always thought this was normal for a girl her age. Maybe it is. I just don't know. Her other interests mostly stem from what she has watched of Bindi. Saving Wales. Dolphins. </p><p></p><p>I am really confused... does this sound like Aspergers ?? I realise you guys aren't really qualified to diagnose (or maybe some of you are <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) but it seems you have a lot more experience and knowledge in these things than I do. Everything I have read of ADHD describes her almost perfectly. Could the above things I've mentioned be ADHD and not Aspergers ? I'm really just after some opinions, please. Just being able to communicate with you all like this is a little piece of sanity ! Thank you !</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BellyKate, post: 104305, member: 4169"] Hi again. Thank you all of for your input ! I contacted the school today and will have an appointment with them next week. I'm in Australia... 4 or so hours north of Sydney. I have really gotten a lot from The Explosive Child. I borrowed it from the library and am going to get the local book shop to order it in for me. From what I have read about ADHD I have decided to go for the softer approach with her. For years I have tried so many things and really have ended up caught in that terrible "death roll" with her, both of us struggling to "win". It is such a trap, to want them to acknowledge that you are the boss ("You're not the boss, mum, I am !!" heard that a million times !) and so I have ended up pulling her up on every raspberry she blows, every time she sarcastically blurts out "blah blah blah" when I am talking to her, every time she ignores my request for her to do something. I realise it isn't getting anywhere, have tried to ignore, ended up getting tough again... mostly due to other's opinions. I've decided to ignore the majority of stuff, have one or 2 things I am willing to go through a meltdown over, and a few more things I will compromise over. The thing is, she is insatiable. She wants more and more of everything, flits from thing to thing, wants things at times when it is impossible for me to allow them or give them to her ie. at bedtime she wants to go play with 2 older girls who live in our street. She becomes one-eyed ! She must have these things or the world really feels like it will end. She is incredibly explosive. In the last 2 months she has made holes in the walls, and attacked me in a fit of temper which resulted in me losing half a toe nail (painful!). We have almost daily nuclear reactor meltdowns. She hates to be in the car to drive 20 minutes to her grandparents ~ that has really become a horrible thing for her. The list is long but I am sure you have all heard it before. I have been following the Explosive Child but quite often she will erupt with no warning. I will ask her how she is today or something harmless like that, and she will become a hurricane instantly. I have a lot to learn. A few questions about Aspergers for anyone who has read this far, please... She has no problem AT ALL with eye conduct but socially she shows lack of empathy (ie. has locked children in her room because she didn't want them to stop playing with her, even though the child at the time was hyterically crying and distraught), she has to be in total control of whatever is being played, even down to how the other people playing must say things and what they must say, she still misunderstands when people are joking or being playful with her but not always... it seems to be at unpredictable times. Have trained my father to wink at her when he is joking about with her and this helps a lot. She still puts absolutely everything into her mouth and has been to the emergency ward twice this year for swallowing things. Many, many times a day I have to tell her to take things out of her mouth. She should have outgrown this now. I believe this is called sensation seeking and the psychiatric thinks she does it because it's calming. She has a few main interests but she also shows fleeting interest in loads of things... she can't get enough info about everything ! But her main interests are Bindi Irwin and doing all of her dance routines and songs, even down to imitating her voice perfectly. We all have to play this Bindi "game" a lot. Anything Bindi says, my daughter becomes obsessed with. I always thought this was normal for a girl her age. Maybe it is. I just don't know. Her other interests mostly stem from what she has watched of Bindi. Saving Wales. Dolphins. I am really confused... does this sound like Aspergers ?? I realise you guys aren't really qualified to diagnose (or maybe some of you are :)) but it seems you have a lot more experience and knowledge in these things than I do. Everything I have read of ADHD describes her almost perfectly. Could the above things I've mentioned be ADHD and not Aspergers ? I'm really just after some opinions, please. Just being able to communicate with you all like this is a little piece of sanity ! Thank you ! [/QUOTE]
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