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My dad disowned me
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 674091" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>((HUGS)) to you.......</p><p></p><p>It sounds like he is still trying to control you and that is just sad.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I am a Christian and I can tell you that his response is driven from a legalistic view which a lot of people who claim to be Christians share. My opinion, if he were truly a born again Christian he would be operating out of love and grace, instead of trying to shame and guilt you.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Good for you for defending yourself.</p><p>Whether you choose to keep him in your life is up to you. If it were me, I would see how things go over the next few weeks/months but I would change my response to him. Just like we do with our D-Cs, the less you say the better. Perhaps you could have a "canned" response like, Hmmm, that's interesting, or You are entitled to your opinion.</p><p>You can also set clear boundaries with him. Tell him that you will not allow him to treat you with such disdain. Also by doing this, you will be taking back the power and you may find your anxiety improves.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/group-hug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":group-hug:" title="group hug :group-hug:" data-shortname=":group-hug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 674091, member: 18516"] ((HUGS)) to you....... It sounds like he is still trying to control you and that is just sad. I am a Christian and I can tell you that his response is driven from a legalistic view which a lot of people who claim to be Christians share. My opinion, if he were truly a born again Christian he would be operating out of love and grace, instead of trying to shame and guilt you. Good for you for defending yourself. Whether you choose to keep him in your life is up to you. If it were me, I would see how things go over the next few weeks/months but I would change my response to him. Just like we do with our D-Cs, the less you say the better. Perhaps you could have a "canned" response like, Hmmm, that's interesting, or You are entitled to your opinion. You can also set clear boundaries with him. Tell him that you will not allow him to treat you with such disdain. Also by doing this, you will be taking back the power and you may find your anxiety improves. :group-hug: [/QUOTE]
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