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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 110044" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Sadlady,</p><p></p><p>Your daughter's behaviors are not a reflection on you nor are they a personal attack against you, though it's very easy to interpret them as such. I think it's pretty safe to say that most of the parents on the board have *never* in their life treated another human being the way our difficult children have treated us. But our kids are not us. There is something that isn't quite connected - be it cause and effect, attachment, empathy, basic decency. Our job as their parents is to learn how to work with what our kids' have, how to build on it, how to teach or train them to be able to function successfully.</p><p></p><p>The activities you have her involved in are good and, in my humble opinion, should continue. This gives her an outlet and an opportunity to have success, and you a bit of a break.</p><p></p><p>I suspect you and I were raised in similar kinds of homes in terms of corporal punishment. I can only reemphasize the above - these methods are not going to correct your daughter's behaviors and may very well make them worse. Your daughter has quite a different temperament than you did at this age. Nothing positive will come out of corporal punishment.</p><p></p><p>I hear your frustration and have been there. You need help with your daughter. Getting the application for CHOP was an excellent step. Getting her into a therapist is another good step. You and husband may have to "tag team" parent until you're able to get an evaluation and a plan in place. I'm so glad to hear he has given you a break this afternoon. Take this time to find your place again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 110044, member: 8"] Sadlady, Your daughter's behaviors are not a reflection on you nor are they a personal attack against you, though it's very easy to interpret them as such. I think it's pretty safe to say that most of the parents on the board have *never* in their life treated another human being the way our difficult children have treated us. But our kids are not us. There is something that isn't quite connected - be it cause and effect, attachment, empathy, basic decency. Our job as their parents is to learn how to work with what our kids' have, how to build on it, how to teach or train them to be able to function successfully. The activities you have her involved in are good and, in my humble opinion, should continue. This gives her an outlet and an opportunity to have success, and you a bit of a break. I suspect you and I were raised in similar kinds of homes in terms of corporal punishment. I can only reemphasize the above - these methods are not going to correct your daughter's behaviors and may very well make them worse. Your daughter has quite a different temperament than you did at this age. Nothing positive will come out of corporal punishment. I hear your frustration and have been there. You need help with your daughter. Getting the application for CHOP was an excellent step. Getting her into a therapist is another good step. You and husband may have to "tag team" parent until you're able to get an evaluation and a plan in place. I'm so glad to hear he has given you a break this afternoon. Take this time to find your place again. [/QUOTE]
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