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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 520806" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>((((HUGS)))) Yes, medications only do so much, but if she's in such despair, the medications still aren't right. The medications should get a person at least to the point where they see that they CAN have a better and different life. At that point is seems worth putting in an effort.</p><p></p><p>I agree that inpatient sounds about right. Short of that, be gentle on her and yourselves. The more you push the issues on her and create conflict, the more she can/may/will convince herself that she is living in a hostile world.</p><p></p><p>What does she like (used to like)? Movies, music? Anything that can be turned on in the background to have something positive going on? She might protest and tell her she doesn't have to listen, but you are leaving it on. </p><p></p><p>When my son was at his darkest, he would just lie on the couch in the living room. He loves Lego sets and I didn't have any spare ones, so I used the next best thing - Knext sets. I would sit down open one up and start building. He'd start yelling at me, telling me not to expect him to participate. I told him I didn't, <strong>I </strong>wanted to build the sets. Within a half hour he'd be helping me. Then I'd sneak away, and by the time he was done building a set, he was un-depressed enough to do some homework and/or play on the computer. Only lasted a few hours, but that was a few hours more of reasonable functioning. Fortunately for us, the Abilify worked almost instantly for him so once he got on that it was easier. At that point he was able to learn the skill I was teaching him with the Kinext - do something. Do anything. It just may get your mind out of that dark place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 520806, member: 11965"] ((((HUGS)))) Yes, medications only do so much, but if she's in such despair, the medications still aren't right. The medications should get a person at least to the point where they see that they CAN have a better and different life. At that point is seems worth putting in an effort. I agree that inpatient sounds about right. Short of that, be gentle on her and yourselves. The more you push the issues on her and create conflict, the more she can/may/will convince herself that she is living in a hostile world. What does she like (used to like)? Movies, music? Anything that can be turned on in the background to have something positive going on? She might protest and tell her she doesn't have to listen, but you are leaving it on. When my son was at his darkest, he would just lie on the couch in the living room. He loves Lego sets and I didn't have any spare ones, so I used the next best thing - Knext sets. I would sit down open one up and start building. He'd start yelling at me, telling me not to expect him to participate. I told him I didn't, [B]I [/B]wanted to build the sets. Within a half hour he'd be helping me. Then I'd sneak away, and by the time he was done building a set, he was un-depressed enough to do some homework and/or play on the computer. Only lasted a few hours, but that was a few hours more of reasonable functioning. Fortunately for us, the Abilify worked almost instantly for him so once he got on that it was easier. At that point he was able to learn the skill I was teaching him with the Kinext - do something. Do anything. It just may get your mind out of that dark place. [/QUOTE]
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