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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 372119" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>TL, you are lucky that you had the option of a group home and could place Wm there yourselves. I don't have that option- my son is too deep into the court system and being on probation/parole for the past 4 years, the judge is the one who decides if he gets placed at home, in incarceration, or turned over to dss. Getting placed at home doesn't mean that I am allowed to place difficult child somewhere else, it means difficult child is allowed to live at home as long as we both agree to follow any and all requirements of parole/probation. This is why I could not place difficult child into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) last year when I hadd him accepted into one and funding lined up- the court would not allow it. (The court wouldn't allow it based on GAL's recommendation in spite of there being written recommendations by a state psychiatrist saying that difficult child's best hope was a psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And this is why I think GAL should be held accountable.) DSS can place a child into foster care, a group home, or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) IF and ONLY if there is not a willing family member available to accept custody in place of the parent. And this is what is standing in the way of difficult child getting any further services. </p><p></p><p>My mother put me in the hands of an abuser/molester at 15yo and this is what she tried to do to my son by getting my bro involved a few years ago, whether intentional or not. No one likes to believe that sort of thing so they go into denial about the possibility of it and find it much more comfortable and easy to accuse me of being paranoid, or lying about it, etc. But knowing the pain and hurt it caused me as a teen to be in harm by a family member, I have advocated that if difficult child can't go to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as a first choice, or group home as a second choice, then Department of Juvenile Justice is better than my bro. But all I can do is advocate for something- it simply is not my choice and now that there is another charge against him by me and this one is a felony, he will automatically be assigned a GAL and the judge won't give two hoots about anything I have to say because he will be listening to the GAL for recommended placement. It is almost assured that difficult child will be recommitted to state Department of Juvenile Justice but the question will be where to send him upon release next time- DSS/my bro or back to me. This is based on PO saying that Department of Juvenile Justice has no group home in their system for a teen this young. I'm still finding it hard to believe that they don't have any for a 16yo and difficult child will be 16yo by the time he's released from Department of Juvenile Justice this time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 372119, member: 3699"] TL, you are lucky that you had the option of a group home and could place Wm there yourselves. I don't have that option- my son is too deep into the court system and being on probation/parole for the past 4 years, the judge is the one who decides if he gets placed at home, in incarceration, or turned over to dss. Getting placed at home doesn't mean that I am allowed to place difficult child somewhere else, it means difficult child is allowed to live at home as long as we both agree to follow any and all requirements of parole/probation. This is why I could not place difficult child into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) last year when I hadd him accepted into one and funding lined up- the court would not allow it. (The court wouldn't allow it based on GAL's recommendation in spite of there being written recommendations by a state psychiatrist saying that difficult child's best hope was a psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And this is why I think GAL should be held accountable.) DSS can place a child into foster care, a group home, or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) IF and ONLY if there is not a willing family member available to accept custody in place of the parent. And this is what is standing in the way of difficult child getting any further services. My mother put me in the hands of an abuser/molester at 15yo and this is what she tried to do to my son by getting my bro involved a few years ago, whether intentional or not. No one likes to believe that sort of thing so they go into denial about the possibility of it and find it much more comfortable and easy to accuse me of being paranoid, or lying about it, etc. But knowing the pain and hurt it caused me as a teen to be in harm by a family member, I have advocated that if difficult child can't go to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as a first choice, or group home as a second choice, then Department of Juvenile Justice is better than my bro. But all I can do is advocate for something- it simply is not my choice and now that there is another charge against him by me and this one is a felony, he will automatically be assigned a GAL and the judge won't give two hoots about anything I have to say because he will be listening to the GAL for recommended placement. It is almost assured that difficult child will be recommitted to state Department of Juvenile Justice but the question will be where to send him upon release next time- DSS/my bro or back to me. This is based on PO saying that Department of Juvenile Justice has no group home in their system for a teen this young. I'm still finding it hard to believe that they don't have any for a 16yo and difficult child will be 16yo by the time he's released from Department of Juvenile Justice this time. [/QUOTE]
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