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my family is in crisis, 17 and 19 year old sons are going down a really bad path!
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 597151" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome fedup. I'm sorry you had to find us, but certainly happy that you did. It would appear as if you have a broken family with your sons now acting out. The best advice I can give you is to find yourself support ASAP, an alanon group, good for you for your AA group, codependency group, therapy, parent groups, family groups, places where you can ALL be really heard and understood. That will begin the process of healing and give you some tools to work on to detach from the behaviors of others. You all need help, it's a family system issue where all members are entrenched in a negative behavior problem likely brought on by substance abuse.........however that is simply a symptom of a larger problem and counseling for all of you is necessary to uproot the issues, deal with them head on and change the dynamics. When you are in your own counseling, you can pose those questions of your therapist who will know the family "story." In broken systems, the parents need to heal so they can help the kids learn and heal. Put the focus on you and your husband, and once that focus is established, then focus on your kids once you have all your ducks in order.</p><p></p><p>*Keep venting, posting, sharing, it helps. I'm glad you're here..................gentle hugs to you............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 597151, member: 13542"] Welcome fedup. I'm sorry you had to find us, but certainly happy that you did. It would appear as if you have a broken family with your sons now acting out. The best advice I can give you is to find yourself support ASAP, an alanon group, good for you for your AA group, codependency group, therapy, parent groups, family groups, places where you can ALL be really heard and understood. That will begin the process of healing and give you some tools to work on to detach from the behaviors of others. You all need help, it's a family system issue where all members are entrenched in a negative behavior problem likely brought on by substance abuse.........however that is simply a symptom of a larger problem and counseling for all of you is necessary to uproot the issues, deal with them head on and change the dynamics. When you are in your own counseling, you can pose those questions of your therapist who will know the family "story." In broken systems, the parents need to heal so they can help the kids learn and heal. Put the focus on you and your husband, and once that focus is established, then focus on your kids once you have all your ducks in order. *Keep venting, posting, sharing, it helps. I'm glad you're here..................gentle hugs to you............ [/QUOTE]
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