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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 384488" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I hope that you don't think that I am being unsupportive by what I am about to say. I don't mean it that way at all. I totally understand about one child needing you 24/7 and being consumed with that. I have had a child in crisis mode for 3 years now, with mostly physical rather than mental problems, but there are similar issues. There have been times during the 3 years that her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) was a prominent part of the picture, too. </p><p></p><p>Last October, she was in such pain that I slept with her and laid in the bed with her during the day for 6 weeks or so. She was in such pain that she couldn't even watch TV. All I could really do for her is be with her. For months after that, I slept with her. So I get what you are going through.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, the other people in the family are still going to have their issues. I don't think it is realistic to think that a teenager is going to become the perfect child just because her sister is sick. A husband still wants to be with his wife. I know from my own experience that it is hard to cope with that on top of the crisis at hand. But, if you make your husband happy, he might be feeling kinder towards you and be more supportive. That will help ease some of the tension coming from that direction. I am not always the best about this myself, but I do think it is wise to try to meet a husband's needs as much as possible for the sake of the marriage and the family.</p><p></p><p>When this crisis is over, you still want to have a good relationship with your husband.</p><p></p><p>I have found when my kids are mentally stable, the environment takes care of itself, so my emphasis has always been on that. I think you can drive yourself crazy trying to create the perfect environment, but if they are mentally unstable, there's still going to be that tension in the air. Just my experience.</p><p></p><p>Is there anyone else that can take a turn sitting with difficult child while she drinks her shake? Even getting a break from one 4 or 5 hour session would give you some relief. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 384488, member: 1792"] I hope that you don't think that I am being unsupportive by what I am about to say. I don't mean it that way at all. I totally understand about one child needing you 24/7 and being consumed with that. I have had a child in crisis mode for 3 years now, with mostly physical rather than mental problems, but there are similar issues. There have been times during the 3 years that her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) was a prominent part of the picture, too. Last October, she was in such pain that I slept with her and laid in the bed with her during the day for 6 weeks or so. She was in such pain that she couldn't even watch TV. All I could really do for her is be with her. For months after that, I slept with her. So I get what you are going through. Unfortunately, the other people in the family are still going to have their issues. I don't think it is realistic to think that a teenager is going to become the perfect child just because her sister is sick. A husband still wants to be with his wife. I know from my own experience that it is hard to cope with that on top of the crisis at hand. But, if you make your husband happy, he might be feeling kinder towards you and be more supportive. That will help ease some of the tension coming from that direction. I am not always the best about this myself, but I do think it is wise to try to meet a husband's needs as much as possible for the sake of the marriage and the family. When this crisis is over, you still want to have a good relationship with your husband. I have found when my kids are mentally stable, the environment takes care of itself, so my emphasis has always been on that. I think you can drive yourself crazy trying to create the perfect environment, but if they are mentally unstable, there's still going to be that tension in the air. Just my experience. Is there anyone else that can take a turn sitting with difficult child while she drinks her shake? Even getting a break from one 4 or 5 hour session would give you some relief. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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