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My five year old daughter beats me up and I don't know what to do
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 370924" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I don't hold with holding, not in all cases. For a lot of kids it can work well, and so you do it. But some kids can be made worse if you try it and for them, I would recommend against it.</p><p></p><p>If your husband doesn't like your option (locking her in a 'safe room') then has he anything viable to offer as an alternative? because if not, it is "put up or shut up" time. You do what you feel you need to do, in order to be safe. Of course your long-term aim is to not need to do this, but you also should not put up with this sort of attack on you with no response. She's also attacking a younger sibling and that is definitely no-go. It's Basket A, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>However, long-term it's worth trying a reward system for an increasing period of time without physical attack. I would also think of providing her with some other physical outlet that doesn't cause pain to someone (like you or your other child). We used to use a jogging trampoline for difficult child 1, so when he was fired up and aggressive he could go jump, literally. A jogging trampoline can be set up in a bedroom, and the child can jump on it whenever they have excess energy to expend. Even in wet weather.</p><p></p><p>I do agree with getting her evaluated; also see if you can get some professional advice on how to deal with her attacks. This is not acceptable and you need to draw a line in the sand now.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 370924, member: 1991"] I don't hold with holding, not in all cases. For a lot of kids it can work well, and so you do it. But some kids can be made worse if you try it and for them, I would recommend against it. If your husband doesn't like your option (locking her in a 'safe room') then has he anything viable to offer as an alternative? because if not, it is "put up or shut up" time. You do what you feel you need to do, in order to be safe. Of course your long-term aim is to not need to do this, but you also should not put up with this sort of attack on you with no response. She's also attacking a younger sibling and that is definitely no-go. It's Basket A, in my opinion. However, long-term it's worth trying a reward system for an increasing period of time without physical attack. I would also think of providing her with some other physical outlet that doesn't cause pain to someone (like you or your other child). We used to use a jogging trampoline for difficult child 1, so when he was fired up and aggressive he could go jump, literally. A jogging trampoline can be set up in a bedroom, and the child can jump on it whenever they have excess energy to expend. Even in wet weather. I do agree with getting her evaluated; also see if you can get some professional advice on how to deal with her attacks. This is not acceptable and you need to draw a line in the sand now. Marg [/QUOTE]
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