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My "grown" kid (cough, cough) has lost his mind and scares me
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 568010" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I am having problems with my 34 yo difficult child involving verbal abuse, alcohol, and suicide threats. I have given mine numbers for therapy and there are many that charge on a sliding scale based on income. I was also in a very good program at a college, when he was in his teens, where the grad student did the counseling with a professor listening in and advising. Mine told me he had an appointment to go, but I know he has not.</p><p></p><p>He was living with a 38yo difficult child and they fight, he threatens suicide, cuts himself, and she wanted me to get involved long distance in all of the drama. I refused (other than to tell him he needed to stop drinking, fighting and cutting himself, get in therapy) so she started harrassing me by phone and emails. I called the police to stop the harrassment. They had a fight and she and her mother set all of his belongings out in the rain and much of it was stolen. They had another fight and she came after him with a knife, he called the police, she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself.</p><p></p><p>Her cousin told him after she got out of jail she was going to find him and kill him. I bought a ticket to stay with friends (non abusers) and he was looking for work.</p><p></p><p>AND now they are back together again! He has lied about it but I know they are. He asked me for money AGAIN and I said No, this prompted nasty messages of suicide, I never loved him, he will kill himself so I can continue in my 'perfect life'. I think my eyes have permanently rolled to the back of my head!</p><p></p><p>About 6 months ago the two of them had been in on a conn about him being homeless and I was sending money so he could finish the semester and look for a job. I didn't want him to have to drop out and lose his money, I thought it would help him find a job. All of it was a lie - he wasn't going to college that semester.</p><p></p><p>So.............. I have reached rock bottom - no more money, his was always that he had not eaten in days. Well I am over it - he can dumspter dive or find a soup kitchen. His new plan is to attend college for 4 years - who is going to support him?</p><p></p><p>There is always help if they wants it - but they want the easy way out and everything is our fault. Mine can call me collect when he starts treatment, other than that I want no contact. I'm really not sure where he is, but that would probably be a lie too.</p><p></p><p>People will treat you they way you let them - and I want to be treated with respect. The two of them make a very toxic, immature couple, but that's his choice - he is old enough to live his life the way he wants. AND I am going to live mine the way I want, I'm retired and just want peace. Focus on the positives in your life.</p><p></p><p>(((huggs it is hard to do)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 568010, member: 13558"] I am having problems with my 34 yo difficult child involving verbal abuse, alcohol, and suicide threats. I have given mine numbers for therapy and there are many that charge on a sliding scale based on income. I was also in a very good program at a college, when he was in his teens, where the grad student did the counseling with a professor listening in and advising. Mine told me he had an appointment to go, but I know he has not. He was living with a 38yo difficult child and they fight, he threatens suicide, cuts himself, and she wanted me to get involved long distance in all of the drama. I refused (other than to tell him he needed to stop drinking, fighting and cutting himself, get in therapy) so she started harrassing me by phone and emails. I called the police to stop the harrassment. They had a fight and she and her mother set all of his belongings out in the rain and much of it was stolen. They had another fight and she came after him with a knife, he called the police, she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself. Her cousin told him after she got out of jail she was going to find him and kill him. I bought a ticket to stay with friends (non abusers) and he was looking for work. AND now they are back together again! He has lied about it but I know they are. He asked me for money AGAIN and I said No, this prompted nasty messages of suicide, I never loved him, he will kill himself so I can continue in my 'perfect life'. I think my eyes have permanently rolled to the back of my head! About 6 months ago the two of them had been in on a conn about him being homeless and I was sending money so he could finish the semester and look for a job. I didn't want him to have to drop out and lose his money, I thought it would help him find a job. All of it was a lie - he wasn't going to college that semester. So.............. I have reached rock bottom - no more money, his was always that he had not eaten in days. Well I am over it - he can dumspter dive or find a soup kitchen. His new plan is to attend college for 4 years - who is going to support him? There is always help if they wants it - but they want the easy way out and everything is our fault. Mine can call me collect when he starts treatment, other than that I want no contact. I'm really not sure where he is, but that would probably be a lie too. People will treat you they way you let them - and I want to be treated with respect. The two of them make a very toxic, immature couple, but that's his choice - he is old enough to live his life the way he wants. AND I am going to live mine the way I want, I'm retired and just want peace. Focus on the positives in your life. (((huggs it is hard to do))) [/QUOTE]
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