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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 244687" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Linda,</p><p>I am so sorry.</p><p>Yet with her history of sexual abuse, it is unfortunately all too psychologically common. In addition, now that her dad has died, her need to try and fill that void with another male's attention will be tenfold.</p><p></p><p>I speak from experience, not to the degree kt has endured, but none the less, because of the sexual abuse by my father, and his emotional absence, in my life, I sought out sex as a teenager everywhere. However, somehow I had it in my head, that I would not get pregnant, and I demanded to be put on the pill at 15. My parents were wise enough to allow that, and I don't ever remember feeling as if they were condoning it - I think they knew I would do it regardless - and I think they just paid for the visit and sat in the car. I remember them just being seething mad at me period during that time, so the dr visit was pretty inconsequential.</p><p></p><p>I might suggest the same route for kt. I am not sure if you can prevent her desperate need for sexual attention from occurring - or can you prevent her acting on it - but you can do your best to make sure she does not get diseases or pregnant. </p><p></p><p>In addition, once she is in day treatment, and getting that therapy daily, that will help a lot. </p><p></p><p>I have to admit, even at 40, when I am dating, I have to consciously talk to myself about not going too fast with a guy and just jumping into bed with him. This has been a lifelong struggle. It is hard.</p><p></p><p>I guess I might also not take away the visit with wm. She needs to practice healthy boundaries with men that are family.</p><p></p><p>Sending you all the hugs and strength in the world. So sorry.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 244687, member: 3301"] Linda, I am so sorry. Yet with her history of sexual abuse, it is unfortunately all too psychologically common. In addition, now that her dad has died, her need to try and fill that void with another male's attention will be tenfold. I speak from experience, not to the degree kt has endured, but none the less, because of the sexual abuse by my father, and his emotional absence, in my life, I sought out sex as a teenager everywhere. However, somehow I had it in my head, that I would not get pregnant, and I demanded to be put on the pill at 15. My parents were wise enough to allow that, and I don't ever remember feeling as if they were condoning it - I think they knew I would do it regardless - and I think they just paid for the visit and sat in the car. I remember them just being seething mad at me period during that time, so the dr visit was pretty inconsequential. I might suggest the same route for kt. I am not sure if you can prevent her desperate need for sexual attention from occurring - or can you prevent her acting on it - but you can do your best to make sure she does not get diseases or pregnant. In addition, once she is in day treatment, and getting that therapy daily, that will help a lot. I have to admit, even at 40, when I am dating, I have to consciously talk to myself about not going too fast with a guy and just jumping into bed with him. This has been a lifelong struggle. It is hard. I guess I might also not take away the visit with wm. She needs to practice healthy boundaries with men that are family. Sending you all the hugs and strength in the world. So sorry.:frowny: [/QUOTE]
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