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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 377949" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">I'm so sorry - for all of it. I'll be honest, I don't know how you've managed to get this far with husband. I know you love him and that the man you fell in love is in there somewhere. Good for him for at least wanting to get better and become free from the drug use. If he went into a center for abuse, they would first make him do a medication wash and then allow only the certain medications, such as the Lyrica, that he truly needs. They would not condone any use of suboxene or other pain relievers even for a while. My nephew who is 5 months sober from opiates was always in pain...his whole life, even as a young boy, he was always in pain. He complained of headaches, stiffness, joint and body aches, always. He used to eat Advil/Aleive like it was Pez candy. In rehab, without any way of numbing his supposed pain, he learned he really wasn't in that much pain (it took a long time for him to get to that point, like last week!)...he does have physical pain, but he was overnumbing the pain with his opiate use and abuse of OTC pain medications. He wanted to 'check out', get away from the pain of ordinary every day pain. The thing is, he hurt his family, both immediate and distant, by his abuse. At a certain point, we all had to the detach from him and that was the scariest thing. I am his Godmother and we've always been very close. It broke my heart to force myself not to 'help' him or listen to him rant and vent, make poor decisions such as firing one DR after another. In nephews case, we learned that part of the reason he wanted a new DR ever few months was because he was on the make, trying to get a Dr to prescribe him more medications. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">CM, in no way am I saying your husband is like my nephew - I know from reading your posts that his pain is real. But his addictions run deep and he has breached your trust many times. Can you force him to stick with his current DR by giving him an ultimatum? I hate ultimatums because they rarely are effective, but short of allowing him to become homeless and on the streets, what other alternatives do you have? I worry about you - you have your own health issues and your kids need attention. Sending many hugs - keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 377949, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]I'm so sorry - for all of it. I'll be honest, I don't know how you've managed to get this far with husband. I know you love him and that the man you fell in love is in there somewhere. Good for him for at least wanting to get better and become free from the drug use. If he went into a center for abuse, they would first make him do a medication wash and then allow only the certain medications, such as the Lyrica, that he truly needs. They would not condone any use of suboxene or other pain relievers even for a while. My nephew who is 5 months sober from opiates was always in pain...his whole life, even as a young boy, he was always in pain. He complained of headaches, stiffness, joint and body aches, always. He used to eat Advil/Aleive like it was Pez candy. In rehab, without any way of numbing his supposed pain, he learned he really wasn't in that much pain (it took a long time for him to get to that point, like last week!)...he does have physical pain, but he was overnumbing the pain with his opiate use and abuse of OTC pain medications. He wanted to 'check out', get away from the pain of ordinary every day pain. The thing is, he hurt his family, both immediate and distant, by his abuse. At a certain point, we all had to the detach from him and that was the scariest thing. I am his Godmother and we've always been very close. It broke my heart to force myself not to 'help' him or listen to him rant and vent, make poor decisions such as firing one DR after another. In nephews case, we learned that part of the reason he wanted a new DR ever few months was because he was on the make, trying to get a Dr to prescribe him more medications. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]CM, in no way am I saying your husband is like my nephew - I know from reading your posts that his pain is real. But his addictions run deep and he has breached your trust many times. Can you force him to stick with his current DR by giving him an ultimatum? I hate ultimatums because they rarely are effective, but short of allowing him to become homeless and on the streets, what other alternatives do you have? I worry about you - you have your own health issues and your kids need attention. Sending many hugs - keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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