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My out of control 18 year old Daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 523124" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there and welcome to our forum <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Now for the serious stuff. First of all, you may want to start posting on Parent Emeritus, which is for parents of children who are 18 and over. Secondly, if you are in the US, 18 is the legal age when you can kick out your child without accountability for what she does. It is now on her shoulders. thirdly, I am guessing she is using drugs. That is probably the #1 reason our teens/young adults get involved in crime at their ages. You may not even know it, but in my opinion she is likely using drugs...to what extent, who knows? Probably alcohol too. The combo is bad. in my opinion her attitude, her rudeness, her criminality all yells DRUGS!!! I could be wrong, but I'm 80% sure I'm not. Have you checked her room for drug items? Ever have her randomly drug tested (although drug tests are not 100% accurate). What kind of friends does she have? This is very telling.</p><p></p><p>If she does not want to listen to your house rules, I do suggest giving her a deadline to either decide to get help and to follow a list of rules (that you and husband write down, which she signs) and if she can't comply to both requests, give her,s ay, three months to find a place and move out. Even if she ends up in the street (few do...our kids are resourceful), you are showing her the reality of her decisions. It is a wake up call to try to get the young adult to grow up. </p><p></p><p>Also, you and hub deserve a quiet, peaceful life and to enjoy each other without this young adult destorying your house, disrespecting you, and breaking the law...all which causes you a great deal of stress which you don't need. </p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest you at least read Parent Emeritus and next time maybe post there.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and I wish you luck. I had to make my daughter leave our house...I cried for three weeks, but she ended up straightening out her life and she matured a lot. I don't think this would have happened if we would have kept her at home. We are very close now, by the way.</p><p></p><p>Take care and keep us updated!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 523124, member: 1550"] Hi there and welcome to our forum :) Now for the serious stuff. First of all, you may want to start posting on Parent Emeritus, which is for parents of children who are 18 and over. Secondly, if you are in the US, 18 is the legal age when you can kick out your child without accountability for what she does. It is now on her shoulders. thirdly, I am guessing she is using drugs. That is probably the #1 reason our teens/young adults get involved in crime at their ages. You may not even know it, but in my opinion she is likely using drugs...to what extent, who knows? Probably alcohol too. The combo is bad. in my opinion her attitude, her rudeness, her criminality all yells DRUGS!!! I could be wrong, but I'm 80% sure I'm not. Have you checked her room for drug items? Ever have her randomly drug tested (although drug tests are not 100% accurate). What kind of friends does she have? This is very telling. If she does not want to listen to your house rules, I do suggest giving her a deadline to either decide to get help and to follow a list of rules (that you and husband write down, which she signs) and if she can't comply to both requests, give her,s ay, three months to find a place and move out. Even if she ends up in the street (few do...our kids are resourceful), you are showing her the reality of her decisions. It is a wake up call to try to get the young adult to grow up. Also, you and hub deserve a quiet, peaceful life and to enjoy each other without this young adult destorying your house, disrespecting you, and breaking the law...all which causes you a great deal of stress which you don't need. I strongly suggest you at least read Parent Emeritus and next time maybe post there. Hugs and I wish you luck. I had to make my daughter leave our house...I cried for three weeks, but she ended up straightening out her life and she matured a lot. I don't think this would have happened if we would have kept her at home. We are very close now, by the way. Take care and keep us updated! [/QUOTE]
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