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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 198057" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>be aware in some states you must notify school that you desire to record the meeting, and in some states they must agree and give permission. Sadly, - horribly- I have my own documented disability, and I could not write, and early on in issues with my child at her school, I requested to be permitted to tape record meetings becuz I could not write-----I thought it was simple and straightforward, but no, my district never ever ever gives permisssion to a parent to tape record and they got around makeing me this accomodation for MY disability by haveing principal take handwritten notes for me.....um, need I say, the principals notes did not always include everything the same way a tape recording would? </p><p></p><p>I would be careful how you handle the issue of you not going back to school bldg to get your childs hw......they can and might twist that to say YOU do not have your childs best interests at heart. They may use that kind of statement to try to say see- you are not doing what you can.......and when you try to tell them about the evenings and bedtime and mornings etc.....they very possibly can twist that up and make it seem as if you yourself are not trying hard enough or some goofy garbage. I would have a doctor, psychiatrist or therapist or whatever handle all those kinds of things at this point, not minute by miute detail, but in reports explaining how and why these are SYMPTOMS of your childs illnesses. The doctor could say for example- inability to fall alseep at a reasonable time due to mania,,,,difficulty to wake at a time conducive to getting to school on time due to medication adjustment issues or depression, lethargy related to depression etc. This helps make it clear you are working with medical professionals about these issues with your child, clarifies you are seeking medical and professional help- and lets school have it in writing from the professional that these are valid and common manifestations of her documented diagnosis'es. Doing things this way takes any "blame" of "incompetance as a parent" off YOU. This changes the focus from a "home problem" to a disability, an illness, a disorder. It gives you far more solid footing with which to request help from school. </p><p>BUT do be aware, some schools are still not going to be as cooperative as they should. You can maybe make them follow the law, but along the way, a resistant district is gonna pretend to not know the lwas, not understand the diagnosis'es etc.and will likely try to play games dureing every step of the process. </p><p></p><p>Yes, my oldest child had an "escape pass" so as to be able to leave class in event of panic attack.....according to her IEP and whew we had IEP meetings 3-5 hours long at LEAST weekly to reinforce all her accomodations and discuss how they were or were not working and why the accomodations were in place (school called all these meetings, and this went on for 3 YEARS) even then, her teacher would block difficult child at class doorway and refuse to permit difficult child to USE her escape pass, and would actually grab difficult child by the arm and shake her. In due process, the school nurse prsented a "log" of supposed visits by my difficult child to nurses office, which was where difficult child was to go per her escape pass? This log said my difficult child had been to nurses office x times in one month and becuz of difficult children level of neediness, school demanded we send difficult child to an residentail school-----upon LOOKING at this nurses log of difficult child visits? Turns out nurse had tried to say difficult child was in her office on many many days when according to calender school was not even IN SESSION at all! </p><p></p><p>Your scchool KNOWS the laws.....maybe they do not know a lot about your childs specific disabilities, altho I suspect they DO......but..they DO know - I have no doubt- that your child is a candidate for an IEP. They are just danceing around playing mind games becuz they simply do not want to bother. They are hoping you will get frustrated and disappear or something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 198057, member: 1697"] be aware in some states you must notify school that you desire to record the meeting, and in some states they must agree and give permission. Sadly, - horribly- I have my own documented disability, and I could not write, and early on in issues with my child at her school, I requested to be permitted to tape record meetings becuz I could not write-----I thought it was simple and straightforward, but no, my district never ever ever gives permisssion to a parent to tape record and they got around makeing me this accomodation for MY disability by haveing principal take handwritten notes for me.....um, need I say, the principals notes did not always include everything the same way a tape recording would? I would be careful how you handle the issue of you not going back to school bldg to get your childs hw......they can and might twist that to say YOU do not have your childs best interests at heart. They may use that kind of statement to try to say see- you are not doing what you can.......and when you try to tell them about the evenings and bedtime and mornings etc.....they very possibly can twist that up and make it seem as if you yourself are not trying hard enough or some goofy garbage. I would have a doctor, psychiatrist or therapist or whatever handle all those kinds of things at this point, not minute by miute detail, but in reports explaining how and why these are SYMPTOMS of your childs illnesses. The doctor could say for example- inability to fall alseep at a reasonable time due to mania,,,,difficulty to wake at a time conducive to getting to school on time due to medication adjustment issues or depression, lethargy related to depression etc. This helps make it clear you are working with medical professionals about these issues with your child, clarifies you are seeking medical and professional help- and lets school have it in writing from the professional that these are valid and common manifestations of her documented diagnosis'es. Doing things this way takes any "blame" of "incompetance as a parent" off YOU. This changes the focus from a "home problem" to a disability, an illness, a disorder. It gives you far more solid footing with which to request help from school. BUT do be aware, some schools are still not going to be as cooperative as they should. You can maybe make them follow the law, but along the way, a resistant district is gonna pretend to not know the lwas, not understand the diagnosis'es etc.and will likely try to play games dureing every step of the process. Yes, my oldest child had an "escape pass" so as to be able to leave class in event of panic attack.....according to her IEP and whew we had IEP meetings 3-5 hours long at LEAST weekly to reinforce all her accomodations and discuss how they were or were not working and why the accomodations were in place (school called all these meetings, and this went on for 3 YEARS) even then, her teacher would block difficult child at class doorway and refuse to permit difficult child to USE her escape pass, and would actually grab difficult child by the arm and shake her. In due process, the school nurse prsented a "log" of supposed visits by my difficult child to nurses office, which was where difficult child was to go per her escape pass? This log said my difficult child had been to nurses office x times in one month and becuz of difficult children level of neediness, school demanded we send difficult child to an residentail school-----upon LOOKING at this nurses log of difficult child visits? Turns out nurse had tried to say difficult child was in her office on many many days when according to calender school was not even IN SESSION at all! Your scchool KNOWS the laws.....maybe they do not know a lot about your childs specific disabilities, altho I suspect they DO......but..they DO know - I have no doubt- that your child is a candidate for an IEP. They are just danceing around playing mind games becuz they simply do not want to bother. They are hoping you will get frustrated and disappear or something. [/QUOTE]
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