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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 694171" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>Addicts don't deserve positive credit for repeatedly failing... During that sober 4 month period, he deserved credit and recognition for it. But that went away the second he decided to put a substance into his system, despite knowing the consequences. There is no such thing as "almost recovered". We are either recovering, or we are not. When we are, we actually deserve the credit and recognition. When we are not, it is irresponsible to give it to us. It send the message that failure isn't bad as it actually is. </p><p></p><p>It doesn't matter how many times an addict has cleaned up for however long in the past. Each time we relapse, we start over. I know I must sound like a broken record here, but the humility to admit that you are no better than the addicts sitting around you is crucial. When I was doing NA, I met a woman who had 20 years clean time after 20 years of alcohol and substance abuse. She was an actual, licensed, practicing counselor working with addicts on a daily basis. Then a flight she was supposed to be on was delayed, and she ended up having "just one" drink while stuck in the airport. Which turned into a full blown relapse, and a 3 month long binge. She walked into this meeting with head hung, and with the understanding that her decades of sobriety mattered not. She started over with the steps, stopped sponsoring other addicts, and worked on herself. THAT is real humility. She could probably recite the 12 steps, as well as the "Just For Today" booklet from memory, but she acknowledged that she obviously didn't fully get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 694171, member: 20267"] Addicts don't deserve positive credit for repeatedly failing... During that sober 4 month period, he deserved credit and recognition for it. But that went away the second he decided to put a substance into his system, despite knowing the consequences. There is no such thing as "almost recovered". We are either recovering, or we are not. When we are, we actually deserve the credit and recognition. When we are not, it is irresponsible to give it to us. It send the message that failure isn't bad as it actually is. It doesn't matter how many times an addict has cleaned up for however long in the past. Each time we relapse, we start over. I know I must sound like a broken record here, but the humility to admit that you are no better than the addicts sitting around you is crucial. When I was doing NA, I met a woman who had 20 years clean time after 20 years of alcohol and substance abuse. She was an actual, licensed, practicing counselor working with addicts on a daily basis. Then a flight she was supposed to be on was delayed, and she ended up having "just one" drink while stuck in the airport. Which turned into a full blown relapse, and a 3 month long binge. She walked into this meeting with head hung, and with the understanding that her decades of sobriety mattered not. She started over with the steps, stopped sponsoring other addicts, and worked on herself. THAT is real humility. She could probably recite the 12 steps, as well as the "Just For Today" booklet from memory, but she acknowledged that she obviously didn't fully get it. [/QUOTE]
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