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<blockquote data-quote="rebelson" data-source="post: 694194" data-attributes="member: 19966"><p>Ok, this is BS. I am from Palm Beach county, lived there for 30yrs. Also last fall, I helped my own son try to find a 'room to rent' in the Boynton/Delray area. Impossible to find anything under $550/mo., unless it's in the 'ghetto'.</p><p></p><p>Unless he has 2 or 3 other ppl he plans on renting an apt. with, and splitting the rent, $400 is not realistic.</p><p></p><p>But, I think the elephant in the room is, 'does HE think he has a lot of work to do?'</p><p></p><p>Ditto. He might have the desire to be sober, but if he does not 1. think he has a problem and 2. want to do anything ABOUT said problem, nothing will change.</p><p></p><p>But, 'he' has to want the sobriety for himself. Until 'he' wants it, this is all spinning wheels, going through the motions, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Ditto. My opinion is, is that you need to begin coming around to the fact that he may end up leaving the program without your blessing. I am concerned that until he is able to be allowed to experience life on 'his' terms, he will not come to the point to where he reaches closer to his bottom, desires, seeks out, sobriety on his 'own' terms. Not mom and dad's.</p><p></p><p>Earlier this year, when I began posting on here, I saw that my son was asking me for $ under the guise of 'I need food, gas.'....and then buying liquor with it. After that, I abruptly cut him off, no more $. He was also jobless and way behind on his '$600/mo. room rental'. A month or so later, after I could tell he was really floundering, drinking a lot, stagnant....he texted me one afternoon with his new sober living house mgr's phone #. What a shocker! He had admitted himself in to detox. He did that on his own. He actually independently sought help. For him, a stubborn person and user for 9yrs...that was huge. But, it took him 9yrs...to reach that point. I had to step back, let it play itself out.</p><p></p><p>RN, I feel your pain. You know I can say that, unfortunately. We all on here, understand it. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphug:" title="grouphug :grouphug:" data-shortname=":grouphug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelson, post: 694194, member: 19966"] Ok, this is BS. I am from Palm Beach county, lived there for 30yrs. Also last fall, I helped my own son try to find a 'room to rent' in the Boynton/Delray area. Impossible to find anything under $550/mo., unless it's in the 'ghetto'. Unless he has 2 or 3 other ppl he plans on renting an apt. with, and splitting the rent, $400 is not realistic. But, I think the elephant in the room is, 'does HE think he has a lot of work to do?' Ditto. He might have the desire to be sober, but if he does not 1. think he has a problem and 2. want to do anything ABOUT said problem, nothing will change. But, 'he' has to want the sobriety for himself. Until 'he' wants it, this is all spinning wheels, going through the motions, in my opinion. Ditto. My opinion is, is that you need to begin coming around to the fact that he may end up leaving the program without your blessing. I am concerned that until he is able to be allowed to experience life on 'his' terms, he will not come to the point to where he reaches closer to his bottom, desires, seeks out, sobriety on his 'own' terms. Not mom and dad's. Earlier this year, when I began posting on here, I saw that my son was asking me for $ under the guise of 'I need food, gas.'....and then buying liquor with it. After that, I abruptly cut him off, no more $. He was also jobless and way behind on his '$600/mo. room rental'. A month or so later, after I could tell he was really floundering, drinking a lot, stagnant....he texted me one afternoon with his new sober living house mgr's phone #. What a shocker! He had admitted himself in to detox. He did that on his own. He actually independently sought help. For him, a stubborn person and user for 9yrs...that was huge. But, it took him 9yrs...to reach that point. I had to step back, let it play itself out. RN, I feel your pain. You know I can say that, unfortunately. We all on here, understand it. :grouphug: [/QUOTE]
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