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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 694327" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>It may be a problem, but it is completely normal. In fact, I have yet to meet an addict that didn't have this mindset early in recovery. And I was no better. I was never as bad as THAT guy, who puts a needle into his arm. Or that girl, who lost her children to CPS. I had a problem, sure, but at least I wasn't THAT bad.</p><p></p><p>That is an illusion. No, it is more accurate to call it a delusion. It is a belief that is clung to despite any and all evidence to the contrary. It isn't based in reason, so it is necessarily unreasonable. This is why relapse is such an important aspect of recovery. It is only through repeated failure that we truly learn something. He lacks humility, and he may be successful thus far without it, but there will come a time where he will need it, or he will stumble. But he may NEED to stumble in order to get it, which is why I keep saying that relapse isn't necessarily a completely negative thing. I relapsed at least half a dozen times before I would even consider walking into a meeting. And I only did that because my doctor required it in order to remain on his Suboxone treatment. I do not know if I would have made the decision to do so on my own, but I am glad that I walked through that door. </p><p></p><p>Realizing that I was, by no means, special was really helpful. Another negative about pride is that we feel that we HAVE to live up to our own unfair, patently absurd standards. We cannot be humble if we feel that we HAVE to be better than everybody else for whatever reason. I felt that I had more to live up to, or more to live for than the others. That wasn't the case, though. I was not special. I had never felt more understood than I did my first meeting. Being able to let go of those unrealistic, self imposed shackles that is baseless pride was inexplicably relieving, and impactful.</p><p></p><p>Pride is something you don't really want to lose when you have it, but you don't miss it when you let it go. I was no better than the other people in that room, sure. But I was also no worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 694327, member: 20267"] It may be a problem, but it is completely normal. In fact, I have yet to meet an addict that didn't have this mindset early in recovery. And I was no better. I was never as bad as THAT guy, who puts a needle into his arm. Or that girl, who lost her children to CPS. I had a problem, sure, but at least I wasn't THAT bad. That is an illusion. No, it is more accurate to call it a delusion. It is a belief that is clung to despite any and all evidence to the contrary. It isn't based in reason, so it is necessarily unreasonable. This is why relapse is such an important aspect of recovery. It is only through repeated failure that we truly learn something. He lacks humility, and he may be successful thus far without it, but there will come a time where he will need it, or he will stumble. But he may NEED to stumble in order to get it, which is why I keep saying that relapse isn't necessarily a completely negative thing. I relapsed at least half a dozen times before I would even consider walking into a meeting. And I only did that because my doctor required it in order to remain on his Suboxone treatment. I do not know if I would have made the decision to do so on my own, but I am glad that I walked through that door. Realizing that I was, by no means, special was really helpful. Another negative about pride is that we feel that we HAVE to live up to our own unfair, patently absurd standards. We cannot be humble if we feel that we HAVE to be better than everybody else for whatever reason. I felt that I had more to live up to, or more to live for than the others. That wasn't the case, though. I was not special. I had never felt more understood than I did my first meeting. Being able to let go of those unrealistic, self imposed shackles that is baseless pride was inexplicably relieving, and impactful. Pride is something you don't really want to lose when you have it, but you don't miss it when you let it go. I was no better than the other people in that room, sure. But I was also no worse. [/QUOTE]
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