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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 396235"><p>Sometimes cutting is also because you've reached the point where you're so numb you do it just to feel something. My half-sis and I were both cutters, I fixed mine by (you guessed it) getting inked. A decade later when I learned she was doing it, I told her that I had, too, and what I did. She also got inked, and it worked for her as well. </p><p></p><p>The friends I've had with eating disorders craved control over their lives. Not one of them was open to help until they wanted it, they found ways to trick people into believing they were eating, weren't losing so much weight, etc. Many were proud and would show off to each other how skinny they had gotten, because it was proof of their control over their eating. I did have one that finally turned to body-building as her way to control it, but a lot of the girls also had BDD, and saw themselves as "fat" no matter what the scale said. The good thing about maybe trying to point her the body-sculpting path (which is a bit different than building) is that a lot of the foods are high protein, like eggs and shakes (stuff you know she can eat). It gives her activity, and can really build self-esteem. It can open some other social groups to her (like at the gym) that she wouldn't know otherwise. Something to think about, anyway, and a possible way to catch it before it becomes something like full-blown anorexia (though some of them also over-exercise along with not eating). But sculpting as a hobby or even lifestyle is far healthier than not eating, and can give her a good deal of control and healthy body image.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 396235"] Sometimes cutting is also because you've reached the point where you're so numb you do it just to feel something. My half-sis and I were both cutters, I fixed mine by (you guessed it) getting inked. A decade later when I learned she was doing it, I told her that I had, too, and what I did. She also got inked, and it worked for her as well. The friends I've had with eating disorders craved control over their lives. Not one of them was open to help until they wanted it, they found ways to trick people into believing they were eating, weren't losing so much weight, etc. Many were proud and would show off to each other how skinny they had gotten, because it was proof of their control over their eating. I did have one that finally turned to body-building as her way to control it, but a lot of the girls also had BDD, and saw themselves as "fat" no matter what the scale said. The good thing about maybe trying to point her the body-sculpting path (which is a bit different than building) is that a lot of the foods are high protein, like eggs and shakes (stuff you know she can eat). It gives her activity, and can really build self-esteem. It can open some other social groups to her (like at the gym) that she wouldn't know otherwise. Something to think about, anyway, and a possible way to catch it before it becomes something like full-blown anorexia (though some of them also over-exercise along with not eating). But sculpting as a hobby or even lifestyle is far healthier than not eating, and can give her a good deal of control and healthy body image. [/QUOTE]
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