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<blockquote data-quote="sad in the south" data-source="post: 597704" data-attributes="member: 16439"><p>I am very grateful for all of your responses. It is hard to put into words the comfort it gives me reading your responses and simply knowing I am not alone in this hell. Although this was my first post, I have taken alot of advise and wisdom in the past year from reading this forum and it honestly probably prevented me from doing stupid things as gut reactions or going insane with worry. So thank you. I feel less alone and less responsible for my daughter's bad choices and actions. I have been trying to practice detachment and am much better at it than a few months ago. I do admit I still search my daughter's friends facebook pages to see if she posts anything just to get a glimpse of what is going on in her life. I do also stop in at the store she works at about once a month becuase it is the only place I can see her and give her a hug. She always acts very happy to see me. and the sporadic times she calls or texts I get so happy. but because of a longstory involving my daughter wrecking her car in my neighborhood at Christmas and his mom and sister showing up (never met them until that moment) and apparently I disrespected the mom (she is columbian and doesn't speak English well so she didn't say anything. the sister did the talking) my daughter turned her back on me and took the mom's side (AFTER I bought her (AKA her boyfriend's family) a new car with insurance money of course). I also spent many hours last night searching for whatever assistance my daughter might qualify for and I also wasa going to go to good will todaay to look for maternity clothes for her. Now, remember I just found out yesterday morning that she was pregnant and here I am trying to fix her problems on my one day off I have had in weeks. I work full time as a paralegal and nights and weekends at Macys so I rarely get a day off. So I still have a long ways to go on practicing detachment. After reading your advice this morning, I realized what I was doing. Also, my son proposed to his girlfriend yesterday 2 hours after we found out about his sister. It should have been a day of happiness but I ended up stressing over her. My son does not deserve this. I need to celebrate his good news instead. So I am going to go to the beach, read a book, come home and then take my son and future daughter in law out to dinner to celebrate. So thank you all for your advice, guidance and just being there. I might still stop by Goodwill to look for maternity clothes though..... LOL! Hey, it takes time to master this detachment! I will wish myself and all of you peace and acceptance. And a good night's sleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sad in the south, post: 597704, member: 16439"] I am very grateful for all of your responses. It is hard to put into words the comfort it gives me reading your responses and simply knowing I am not alone in this hell. Although this was my first post, I have taken alot of advise and wisdom in the past year from reading this forum and it honestly probably prevented me from doing stupid things as gut reactions or going insane with worry. So thank you. I feel less alone and less responsible for my daughter's bad choices and actions. I have been trying to practice detachment and am much better at it than a few months ago. I do admit I still search my daughter's friends facebook pages to see if she posts anything just to get a glimpse of what is going on in her life. I do also stop in at the store she works at about once a month becuase it is the only place I can see her and give her a hug. She always acts very happy to see me. and the sporadic times she calls or texts I get so happy. but because of a longstory involving my daughter wrecking her car in my neighborhood at Christmas and his mom and sister showing up (never met them until that moment) and apparently I disrespected the mom (she is columbian and doesn't speak English well so she didn't say anything. the sister did the talking) my daughter turned her back on me and took the mom's side (AFTER I bought her (AKA her boyfriend's family) a new car with insurance money of course). I also spent many hours last night searching for whatever assistance my daughter might qualify for and I also wasa going to go to good will todaay to look for maternity clothes for her. Now, remember I just found out yesterday morning that she was pregnant and here I am trying to fix her problems on my one day off I have had in weeks. I work full time as a paralegal and nights and weekends at Macys so I rarely get a day off. So I still have a long ways to go on practicing detachment. After reading your advice this morning, I realized what I was doing. Also, my son proposed to his girlfriend yesterday 2 hours after we found out about his sister. It should have been a day of happiness but I ended up stressing over her. My son does not deserve this. I need to celebrate his good news instead. So I am going to go to the beach, read a book, come home and then take my son and future daughter in law out to dinner to celebrate. So thank you all for your advice, guidance and just being there. I might still stop by Goodwill to look for maternity clothes though..... LOL! Hey, it takes time to master this detachment! I will wish myself and all of you peace and acceptance. And a good night's sleep. [/QUOTE]
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