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<blockquote data-quote="sad in the south" data-source="post: 597731" data-attributes="member: 16439"><p>I have tried to respond twice and I did something wrong and lost both messages... hopefully this one sticks. I just want to thank all of you for your replies, advice and simply just being here. I can't find sufficient words to express how much comfort it gives me just to read that I am not alone in my hell. Since finding this forum last year, even though this is my first post, I have taken alot of your advice, cried reading alot of your stories, and I have been trying to practice detachment. This last straw with my daughter purposely getting pregnant after I did everything I could think of for this not to happen just has put me over the edge. It was a long sleepless night. I said some angry texts yesterday to my daughter which I shouldn't have said. I sent a message via facebook around 3 am last night which I have no way to know if she read it or if the boyfriend saw it first and deleted it but I told her I still loved her and I hope she was taking care of herself, not doing drugs, was seeing a doctor (she doesn't have insurance) and to apply for any assistance that she could because it was going to be very expensive and if I could help the baby to let me know. None of my family has ever been on public assistance but I don't see how she can support a baby sincce she can't even keep her cell phone on. Reading this forum, I know I have to stop trying to help her and I know it is not my responsibility to financially support her. I don't think it is the taxpayer's responsibility either to pay for her poor choices so I feel horrible. It was hard telling my mom that her 19 year old granddaughter was pregnant and it will be embarrassing to tell my co-workers at the law firm I work at that she is pregnant since they have known her since she was born and she was our fill in receptionist for several years but I will survive that too. I found myself researching online last night and this morning to find out where my daughter could get help and I was planning on going to goodwill today to try to find some maternity clothes but after reading your replies, I stopped and realized what I was doing. I was trying to fix my daughter who at this point won't even talk to me or tell me where she is living. So I am still struggling with detachment. I am going to continue coming to this forum for strength and reality checks and I want to try to pay it forward and help other people out there trying to cope. Thank you all again for just being here and easing the pain a bit. I wish all of you and myself peace and acceptance. And a good night's sleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sad in the south, post: 597731, member: 16439"] I have tried to respond twice and I did something wrong and lost both messages... hopefully this one sticks. I just want to thank all of you for your replies, advice and simply just being here. I can't find sufficient words to express how much comfort it gives me just to read that I am not alone in my hell. Since finding this forum last year, even though this is my first post, I have taken alot of your advice, cried reading alot of your stories, and I have been trying to practice detachment. This last straw with my daughter purposely getting pregnant after I did everything I could think of for this not to happen just has put me over the edge. It was a long sleepless night. I said some angry texts yesterday to my daughter which I shouldn't have said. I sent a message via facebook around 3 am last night which I have no way to know if she read it or if the boyfriend saw it first and deleted it but I told her I still loved her and I hope she was taking care of herself, not doing drugs, was seeing a doctor (she doesn't have insurance) and to apply for any assistance that she could because it was going to be very expensive and if I could help the baby to let me know. None of my family has ever been on public assistance but I don't see how she can support a baby sincce she can't even keep her cell phone on. Reading this forum, I know I have to stop trying to help her and I know it is not my responsibility to financially support her. I don't think it is the taxpayer's responsibility either to pay for her poor choices so I feel horrible. It was hard telling my mom that her 19 year old granddaughter was pregnant and it will be embarrassing to tell my co-workers at the law firm I work at that she is pregnant since they have known her since she was born and she was our fill in receptionist for several years but I will survive that too. I found myself researching online last night and this morning to find out where my daughter could get help and I was planning on going to goodwill today to try to find some maternity clothes but after reading your replies, I stopped and realized what I was doing. I was trying to fix my daughter who at this point won't even talk to me or tell me where she is living. So I am still struggling with detachment. I am going to continue coming to this forum for strength and reality checks and I want to try to pay it forward and help other people out there trying to cope. Thank you all again for just being here and easing the pain a bit. I wish all of you and myself peace and acceptance. And a good night's sleep. [/QUOTE]
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