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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 597732" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Some advice: Don't ever give her money flat out. If you absolutely can not resist getting something for her OR the baby, then you pay the doctor yourself or buy the item and tear off the return tags. If you buy her anything, make sure your money goes where you want it to go. Many of our kids take the money we give for various purposes and just blow it on drugs or booze or things they don't need. In the end, many of us end up not giving any money at all.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing to be ashamed of being on public assistance. MANY of us are on social programs because times are tough and there is no other choice. Many of us are are on Medicaid, some on Section 8, some on food stamps, etc...it is not an insult to us. Your daughter should take what is offered her. It is not up to you to take care of her problems. As for feeling embarassed, I have no idea where you live, but having a pregnant kid out here in the middle of Wisconsin is no longer a reason for others to wag their tongues in horror. It is far more accepted than it used to be. Don't worry about others; please, please just take care of yourself. It is none of anyone else's business...it is your daughter's alone. It may upset some members of your family, but they don't need to be upset either...they need to realize they didn't cause it or have anything to do with it. It happens sometimes; even really nice kids get pregnant sometimes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 597732, member: 1550"] Some advice: Don't ever give her money flat out. If you absolutely can not resist getting something for her OR the baby, then you pay the doctor yourself or buy the item and tear off the return tags. If you buy her anything, make sure your money goes where you want it to go. Many of our kids take the money we give for various purposes and just blow it on drugs or booze or things they don't need. In the end, many of us end up not giving any money at all. There is nothing to be ashamed of being on public assistance. MANY of us are on social programs because times are tough and there is no other choice. Many of us are are on Medicaid, some on Section 8, some on food stamps, etc...it is not an insult to us. Your daughter should take what is offered her. It is not up to you to take care of her problems. As for feeling embarassed, I have no idea where you live, but having a pregnant kid out here in the middle of Wisconsin is no longer a reason for others to wag their tongues in horror. It is far more accepted than it used to be. Don't worry about others; please, please just take care of yourself. It is none of anyone else's business...it is your daughter's alone. It may upset some members of your family, but they don't need to be upset either...they need to realize they didn't cause it or have anything to do with it. It happens sometimes; even really nice kids get pregnant sometimes. [/QUOTE]
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