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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 598024"><p>Hello and welcome. Apologies...because I read your post quickly...but sadly I have seen much of this type of thing before.</p><p>I am so sorry that you are emotionally exhausted. Most of us have experienced this. It is not a good state to be in. Bad for your emotional and physical well being. And at 53, working two jobs....you KNOW you deserve a better life than this! </p><p>I would somewhat limit your involvement with your daughter at this time. Consider helping now and again with crucial things like medical care, food and necessary baby items as appropriate.</p><p>Take care of yourself! Seek counseling (for yourself) if you aren't already. If you can afford counseling...go for it! Nothing to be ashamed of. This is way too much for anyone!</p><p>It is hard as heck, but try to shake your emotions out of this. It is up to your daughter to figure out if she wants to live like this. </p><p>Now, she might have another diagnosis other than ADD. MIGHT. If she is open to it, I would also consider paying for her to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation. Find numbers for her like those that would lead her to food stamps....if she does not have money for food and might qualify.</p><p>But, as much as possible, reduce YOUR involvement and make her do her own legwork.</p><p>Greatly limit your emotional involvement. </p><p>What a blessing to have a good son. What a blessing to have two jobs in today's economy. BUT, you should be saving and getting out of debt and looking forward to stopping your second job SOOON! Don't let your daughter's poor behavior ruin your dreams.</p><p>PS There is a book called Boundaries by doctors Townsend and Cloud that might be good for you. If I recall correctly, it has some slight religious overtones, so it might not be for you. But, generally it is a good book that helps people understand boundaries and detachment. Wishing you well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 598024"] Hello and welcome. Apologies...because I read your post quickly...but sadly I have seen much of this type of thing before. I am so sorry that you are emotionally exhausted. Most of us have experienced this. It is not a good state to be in. Bad for your emotional and physical well being. And at 53, working two jobs....you KNOW you deserve a better life than this! I would somewhat limit your involvement with your daughter at this time. Consider helping now and again with crucial things like medical care, food and necessary baby items as appropriate. Take care of yourself! Seek counseling (for yourself) if you aren't already. If you can afford counseling...go for it! Nothing to be ashamed of. This is way too much for anyone! It is hard as heck, but try to shake your emotions out of this. It is up to your daughter to figure out if she wants to live like this. Now, she might have another diagnosis other than ADD. MIGHT. If she is open to it, I would also consider paying for her to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation. Find numbers for her like those that would lead her to food stamps....if she does not have money for food and might qualify. But, as much as possible, reduce YOUR involvement and make her do her own legwork. Greatly limit your emotional involvement. What a blessing to have a good son. What a blessing to have two jobs in today's economy. BUT, you should be saving and getting out of debt and looking forward to stopping your second job SOOON! Don't let your daughter's poor behavior ruin your dreams. PS There is a book called Boundaries by doctors Townsend and Cloud that might be good for you. If I recall correctly, it has some slight religious overtones, so it might not be for you. But, generally it is a good book that helps people understand boundaries and detachment. Wishing you well. [/QUOTE]
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