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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 598031" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I thought a little more on this. When I joined the CD group, I was still posting in "General". There wasn't a PE or Watercooler then. My children were grown and near grown. Honest to goodness, I haven't been to the General section in years, because it's just too difficult. But back in the day, if you were going to post and it wasn't about IEPs or drugs, that was it. My son was putting us through Hades, and the stories I saw from other parents were similar. There were times when I put them all together with each other it made me cringe. </p><p></p><p>I remember one of the old timer's writing a post that was entitled <em>exactly</em> what your post is entitled. "My worst nightmare has happened". Of course, I jumped to my own worst nightmares that were <em>really</em> bad, because we both had sons. I thought "murder". "Mass murder". "Arson". And then I read it, and she was going to be a grandma. Now, I won't lie to you. Her son was WAY out of control. And it was a long row for both of them to hoe. But she now has a loving relationship with both her son and her grandson. </p><p></p><p>Don't let your fear get ahead of your reality. This isn't all going to happen in a day, and what happens isn't preordained. My opinion is that your daughter will do better if she is allowed to come to you for advice and help than if you go to her with it. Trust me, she's going to be scared and lonely, and probably in some trouble, too. Let her come to you, and then you can work it out together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 598031, member: 99"] I thought a little more on this. When I joined the CD group, I was still posting in "General". There wasn't a PE or Watercooler then. My children were grown and near grown. Honest to goodness, I haven't been to the General section in years, because it's just too difficult. But back in the day, if you were going to post and it wasn't about IEPs or drugs, that was it. My son was putting us through Hades, and the stories I saw from other parents were similar. There were times when I put them all together with each other it made me cringe. I remember one of the old timer's writing a post that was entitled [I]exactly[/I] what your post is entitled. "My worst nightmare has happened". Of course, I jumped to my own worst nightmares that were [I]really[/I] bad, because we both had sons. I thought "murder". "Mass murder". "Arson". And then I read it, and she was going to be a grandma. Now, I won't lie to you. Her son was WAY out of control. And it was a long row for both of them to hoe. But she now has a loving relationship with both her son and her grandson. Don't let your fear get ahead of your reality. This isn't all going to happen in a day, and what happens isn't preordained. My opinion is that your daughter will do better if she is allowed to come to you for advice and help than if you go to her with it. Trust me, she's going to be scared and lonely, and probably in some trouble, too. Let her come to you, and then you can work it out together. [/QUOTE]
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