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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 419623" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Just venting about my own personal feelings on it helps. Logically, I know she's 23 and can spend time with whomever she chooses. I don't have to like it one bit and that fact doesn't come into play with her. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Casper is not verbally or physically abusive - it's hard to pinpoint because he isn't overtly controlling, but he does control her. It's little things he says or words or thoughts he puts into her head and mouth that change the way she behaves towards everyone else. He had her believing that WE were controlling and that our home was abusive - so far from the truth it's laughable, I asked everyone, even difficult child who's been through it all, and even she cracked up laughing. And what's even more baffling is why in the heck he would want to be with her. She's a pill and is mean to her boyfriend's. His chief complaint when they broke up last year was that she didn't show emotion and wasn't affectionate enough, claiming that he deserved to be with someone who loved him the way he needs to be loved. H really despised him for using those words because they sound so manipulative. Anyway, why they would want to reunite is beyond us. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I will definitely not allow sleepovers this time around, that's for sure. H is adamant about this rule as we've allowed sleepovers in the past but not this time around, if there is a this time around. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">easy child was pleasant last night, obviously not holding any grudges towards me for speaking my piece, but we shall see when the weekend comes along. I wonder if she will keep it under wraps...hmmm, that's something I would have done back in the day if I knew my parents didn't approve. Hahah. She claims that she's not looking for a relationship and that she's too busy. But she's said that before and then left college to come home and be with Casper, so her claims don't mean anything anymore. She's given up a lot in the past just to be with this guy and as she gets older I know in her head she feels the pressure to be "settled" - she has said as much. I am hoping she can shrug that off. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Thank you for the support. I am resolved to keep my mouth shut unless something detrimental to her well being pops up. At that point, I can't promise anything! </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 419623, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Just venting about my own personal feelings on it helps. Logically, I know she's 23 and can spend time with whomever she chooses. I don't have to like it one bit and that fact doesn't come into play with her. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Casper is not verbally or physically abusive - it's hard to pinpoint because he isn't overtly controlling, but he does control her. It's little things he says or words or thoughts he puts into her head and mouth that change the way she behaves towards everyone else. He had her believing that WE were controlling and that our home was abusive - so far from the truth it's laughable, I asked everyone, even difficult child who's been through it all, and even she cracked up laughing. And what's even more baffling is why in the heck he would want to be with her. She's a pill and is mean to her boyfriend's. His chief complaint when they broke up last year was that she didn't show emotion and wasn't affectionate enough, claiming that he deserved to be with someone who loved him the way he needs to be loved. H really despised him for using those words because they sound so manipulative. Anyway, why they would want to reunite is beyond us. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I will definitely not allow sleepovers this time around, that's for sure. H is adamant about this rule as we've allowed sleepovers in the past but not this time around, if there is a this time around. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]easy child was pleasant last night, obviously not holding any grudges towards me for speaking my piece, but we shall see when the weekend comes along. I wonder if she will keep it under wraps...hmmm, that's something I would have done back in the day if I knew my parents didn't approve. Hahah. She claims that she's not looking for a relationship and that she's too busy. But she's said that before and then left college to come home and be with Casper, so her claims don't mean anything anymore. She's given up a lot in the past just to be with this guy and as she gets older I know in her head she feels the pressure to be "settled" - she has said as much. I am hoping she can shrug that off. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Thank you for the support. I am resolved to keep my mouth shut unless something detrimental to her well being pops up. At that point, I can't promise anything! [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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