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Need a sounding board, venting and some advice - long...sorry
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 325619" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sure sounds like you have been through the wringer a few times. I can honestly say I admire the way you keep your thoughts to yourself when your husband goes back to his mommy as if nothing happened. Sure is an unhealthy sounding relationship.</p><p></p><p>Your Xmas Eve plans sound just right to me. There is no reason to continue to give chunks of your sanity to this game. Do what feels right to you. Let husband do what he needs to with no criticism. </p><p></p><p>As for Christmas, what makes husband think that difficult child 2 would WANT to spend the holidays with y'all? Unless she has some axe to grind, she probably will want to be with whomever will give her the most $$ or stuff that can be sold for $$. Drugs are not cheap after all. IF she comes over, it may be only to steal from you. No matter what husband wants, make sure ALL gifts are locked up. Esp ones for you or the other kids. Make sure ALL medications are locked up. If husband doesn't want to lock up things, put a lock on a door when he is out (locks are not expensive and are easy to install yourself) and put the stuff in there while he is out. Don't say anything, and if he complains tell him you have to do what you can to protect difficult child 2 from getting anything she can sell for drug money. If he objects hopefully you will be able to work out a compromise.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like she is pretty out of control. I hope that the holidays can be enjoyed with-o too much drama. Your instincts are good, follow them!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 325619, member: 1233"] Sure sounds like you have been through the wringer a few times. I can honestly say I admire the way you keep your thoughts to yourself when your husband goes back to his mommy as if nothing happened. Sure is an unhealthy sounding relationship. Your Xmas Eve plans sound just right to me. There is no reason to continue to give chunks of your sanity to this game. Do what feels right to you. Let husband do what he needs to with no criticism. As for Christmas, what makes husband think that difficult child 2 would WANT to spend the holidays with y'all? Unless she has some axe to grind, she probably will want to be with whomever will give her the most $$ or stuff that can be sold for $$. Drugs are not cheap after all. IF she comes over, it may be only to steal from you. No matter what husband wants, make sure ALL gifts are locked up. Esp ones for you or the other kids. Make sure ALL medications are locked up. If husband doesn't want to lock up things, put a lock on a door when he is out (locks are not expensive and are easy to install yourself) and put the stuff in there while he is out. Don't say anything, and if he complains tell him you have to do what you can to protect difficult child 2 from getting anything she can sell for drug money. If he objects hopefully you will be able to work out a compromise. It sounds like she is pretty out of control. I hope that the holidays can be enjoyed with-o too much drama. Your instincts are good, follow them! [/QUOTE]
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