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Need a sounding board, venting and some advice - long...sorry
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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 325624" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>Aninom - We had long talks with difficult child 1 after we found out about the manipulation. difficult child 1 was actually starting to doubt his own sanity. If everyone believed he did whatever awful thing and he couldn't remember it...maybe he was blacking out. </p><p></p><p>As far as my SILs go... it made the Enabler/Martyr personality of one really stick out! </p><p></p><p>Your comment about the pretend carousel taking part of my self-esteem really hit me. It does! </p><p></p><p>Recoving - There has been a large cost in me. I've lost a good portion of my ability to trust people. And it isn't so easy for forgive. And each time, it takes longer to heal. I've had to put up some very strong walls between myself and difficult child 2. It was the only way that I was going to survive the emotional strain. </p><p></p><p>I did read Jbrians post about detachment. I've gotten there with difficult child 1. But it took a lot of work. I can now love him for the sweet, funny, lovable kid he is even if he is making some really dumb choices in his life. It is his. I need to work on this for difficult child 2</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 325624, member: 65"] Aninom - We had long talks with difficult child 1 after we found out about the manipulation. difficult child 1 was actually starting to doubt his own sanity. If everyone believed he did whatever awful thing and he couldn't remember it...maybe he was blacking out. As far as my SILs go... it made the Enabler/Martyr personality of one really stick out! Your comment about the pretend carousel taking part of my self-esteem really hit me. It does! Recoving - There has been a large cost in me. I've lost a good portion of my ability to trust people. And it isn't so easy for forgive. And each time, it takes longer to heal. I've had to put up some very strong walls between myself and difficult child 2. It was the only way that I was going to survive the emotional strain. I did read Jbrians post about detachment. I've gotten there with difficult child 1. But it took a lot of work. I can now love him for the sweet, funny, lovable kid he is even if he is making some really dumb choices in his life. It is his. I need to work on this for difficult child 2 [/QUOTE]
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