JJJ
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Eeyore was told that he had to have a 2.7 to get an allowance. He did not earn it first quarter and has been 9 weeks without an allowance. Three of his six classes are done and grades posted. It is not possible for him to get high enough grades on the last 3 finals to get to a 2.7. He MIGHT be able to get a 2.4.
He had a 2.7 last year which is why we choose a 2.7 to keep his allowance. The school agrees that he is intellectually capable of a 2.7 considering that 2/3s of his classes are modified and the other two are "career" classes. The question is...is he emotionally capable of doing the work? He has not tried very hard (although he is pretty adament that he is trying his best). He has had numerous panic attacks at school as well as emotional meltdowns (crying, stomping feet, pouting).
He still thinks he is getting a 2.7 and I am not telling him. He has his last finals tomorrow and if he knows that he blew his allowance, he is likely to just scribble on his last finals. He can see his grades online but (1) he doesn't understand the math on how to figure his gpa (2) he may not be able to figure out how to see the actual semester grade as that is a different screen than he usually uses. Eventually, the grades will "lock" and he will see them and his gpa.
I also gave him several opportunities to earn money by doing extra chores. In the entire 9 weeks, he did extra chores twice. He could have done them 40 times if he reeally wanted money.
My dilemma is that every time we create options for him to earn money, he blows it or refuses to do it. It seems as if his self-esteem issues will not let him try. So, do I just go back to giving him his allowance without strings? or leave him penniless? The school will not help him get a job at this point because he is not 'employable' due to his work refusal and poutiness. He is going to start a mini-pre-voc program after the break and the full pre-voc class in the fall, which the goal of vocational the year after that. But, his case manager, is very concerned that employment outside a structured workshop, is beyond him but with his IQ, he won't 'fit in' in a structured workshop and may not even qualify.
I think Eeyore might be happiest if I put him back on the plan where I buy him what I feel he needs so he doesn't have to earn the money or make decisions about spending it.
He had a 2.7 last year which is why we choose a 2.7 to keep his allowance. The school agrees that he is intellectually capable of a 2.7 considering that 2/3s of his classes are modified and the other two are "career" classes. The question is...is he emotionally capable of doing the work? He has not tried very hard (although he is pretty adament that he is trying his best). He has had numerous panic attacks at school as well as emotional meltdowns (crying, stomping feet, pouting).
He still thinks he is getting a 2.7 and I am not telling him. He has his last finals tomorrow and if he knows that he blew his allowance, he is likely to just scribble on his last finals. He can see his grades online but (1) he doesn't understand the math on how to figure his gpa (2) he may not be able to figure out how to see the actual semester grade as that is a different screen than he usually uses. Eventually, the grades will "lock" and he will see them and his gpa.
I also gave him several opportunities to earn money by doing extra chores. In the entire 9 weeks, he did extra chores twice. He could have done them 40 times if he reeally wanted money.
My dilemma is that every time we create options for him to earn money, he blows it or refuses to do it. It seems as if his self-esteem issues will not let him try. So, do I just go back to giving him his allowance without strings? or leave him penniless? The school will not help him get a job at this point because he is not 'employable' due to his work refusal and poutiness. He is going to start a mini-pre-voc program after the break and the full pre-voc class in the fall, which the goal of vocational the year after that. But, his case manager, is very concerned that employment outside a structured workshop, is beyond him but with his IQ, he won't 'fit in' in a structured workshop and may not even qualify.
I think Eeyore might be happiest if I put him back on the plan where I buy him what I feel he needs so he doesn't have to earn the money or make decisions about spending it.