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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 89895" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Mike,</p><p>I know just how difficult it is to place someone on a psychiatric ward, even against others misgivings. My mother became extremely violent shortly before my 16th birthday. She slapped me and tried to put out a cigarette on my step-father's forehead. She was throwing things, ranting and raving about taking the rest of with her. I called the police and had her removed to the emergency room, from where she was admitted. My brother was angry with me because I don't think he understood the level of violence she was committing. </p><p>My mother's behaviors could no longer be managed at home.</p><p>Someone had to make the tough call so I did it. I didn't want her blood or anyone else's on my head because I could see clearly just what she was becoming capable of doing.</p><p>FWIW, I don't believe my mother has ever forgiven me. But that's okay because we're all alive.</p><p></p><p></p><p>The fact is, things cannot continue in your home as is. Your son will crash & burn, end up in jail or die. Your daughter will most likely become a rescuer and become involved with someone that needs saving. Your son has driven a huge wedge between your wife, his triangulation is of mammoth proportions. I doubt your marriage will withstand much more of his machinations and I know it won't survive should he die.</p><p>You need to figure out a way to get your house back in order. And since you have no control over anyone else, that means putting yourself back in order. Your son and your wife are manipulating and guilting you into accepting your son's aberrant lifestyle either by threatening to leave or suicide. It's abuse, pure and simple.</p><p>I can't understand why you accept living like that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 89895, member: 1722"] Mike, I know just how difficult it is to place someone on a psychiatric ward, even against others misgivings. My mother became extremely violent shortly before my 16th birthday. She slapped me and tried to put out a cigarette on my step-father's forehead. She was throwing things, ranting and raving about taking the rest of with her. I called the police and had her removed to the emergency room, from where she was admitted. My brother was angry with me because I don't think he understood the level of violence she was committing. My mother's behaviors could no longer be managed at home. Someone had to make the tough call so I did it. I didn't want her blood or anyone else's on my head because I could see clearly just what she was becoming capable of doing. FWIW, I don't believe my mother has ever forgiven me. But that's okay because we're all alive. The fact is, things cannot continue in your home as is. Your son will crash & burn, end up in jail or die. Your daughter will most likely become a rescuer and become involved with someone that needs saving. Your son has driven a huge wedge between your wife, his triangulation is of mammoth proportions. I doubt your marriage will withstand much more of his machinations and I know it won't survive should he die. You need to figure out a way to get your house back in order. And since you have no control over anyone else, that means putting yourself back in order. Your son and your wife are manipulating and guilting you into accepting your son's aberrant lifestyle either by threatening to leave or suicide. It's abuse, pure and simple. I can't understand why you accept living like that. [/QUOTE]
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