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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 602960" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>rosepress I just got back from vacation and have not been able to read any replies so I'm sure I will duplicate what my fellow warrior moms here have said.</p><p></p><p>When we asked our daughter to leave because of her drinking and drug use we always tried to keep the lines of communcation open. I would take her calls and texts as long as she wasn;t abusive. Our goal was to get her into treatment and we decided we couldn't do that if we ignored her. And we continue to pay for her cell phone to this day, three years later. I just cannot have her out of communication, she needs it for her job and for emergencies, etc.</p><p></p><p>Your son sounded like he respected your boundaries by quietly getting his bike and leaving. I'm sure you would jump at the chance to help him if he really wanted the help, and I have always felt it best to make sure our daughter knows that we support HER, not her drug/alcohol use. She is now living on her own with her boyfriend and is working a good job and while she still drinks she is not doing drugs to our knowledge and she has more than once told us that she doesn't know what she would have done without our support. But make no mistake about it, we did withdraw anytime she was actively using and not trying to help herself.</p><p></p><p>This is a painful time for you and I am glad you have an appointment with a counselor to help guide you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 602960, member: 59"] rosepress I just got back from vacation and have not been able to read any replies so I'm sure I will duplicate what my fellow warrior moms here have said. When we asked our daughter to leave because of her drinking and drug use we always tried to keep the lines of communcation open. I would take her calls and texts as long as she wasn;t abusive. Our goal was to get her into treatment and we decided we couldn't do that if we ignored her. And we continue to pay for her cell phone to this day, three years later. I just cannot have her out of communication, she needs it for her job and for emergencies, etc. Your son sounded like he respected your boundaries by quietly getting his bike and leaving. I'm sure you would jump at the chance to help him if he really wanted the help, and I have always felt it best to make sure our daughter knows that we support HER, not her drug/alcohol use. She is now living on her own with her boyfriend and is working a good job and while she still drinks she is not doing drugs to our knowledge and she has more than once told us that she doesn't know what she would have done without our support. But make no mistake about it, we did withdraw anytime she was actively using and not trying to help herself. This is a painful time for you and I am glad you have an appointment with a counselor to help guide you. [/QUOTE]
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