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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 621846" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi, I'm sorry you are in the situation you are in. It truly does sound nearly impossible. </p><p></p><p>I would run, not walk, to the nearest Al-Anon meeting and start going every single day to a meeting. It is free. It is a 12-step process for family members of addicts and alcoholics. It is a wonderful tool and is basically group therapy. Al-Anon will help you let go of your daughter and your mother and learn to focus on yourself and your own life. </p><p></p><p>I see that you are in recovery yourself---if you worked a 12-step program it is basically the same 12 steps but it is presented in a completely different way. There are a lot of "double winners" as they call themselves in Al-Anon and AA. They always comment how different it is---how peaceful, for instance.</p><p></p><p>Go to 6 Al-Anon meetings before you decide if the program is right for you. There is so much support and help there. You will start to hear a different way of doing things. </p><p></p><p>In my opinion and experience, it is truly the only way to peace in a situation like yours and like mine. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter is an adult in the eyes of society. It's time you started letting go of doing things for her she can do for herself. If she doesn't, then she takes the consequences. She won't like it, but it sounds like she doesn't like the way things are now either.</p><p></p><p>You are reaching out for help. That is why you posted here. That is a good start. You are ready to do something different. That is the very first step toward peace.</p><p></p><p>Blessings and hugs for you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 621846, member: 17542"] Hi, I'm sorry you are in the situation you are in. It truly does sound nearly impossible. I would run, not walk, to the nearest Al-Anon meeting and start going every single day to a meeting. It is free. It is a 12-step process for family members of addicts and alcoholics. It is a wonderful tool and is basically group therapy. Al-Anon will help you let go of your daughter and your mother and learn to focus on yourself and your own life. I see that you are in recovery yourself---if you worked a 12-step program it is basically the same 12 steps but it is presented in a completely different way. There are a lot of "double winners" as they call themselves in Al-Anon and AA. They always comment how different it is---how peaceful, for instance. Go to 6 Al-Anon meetings before you decide if the program is right for you. There is so much support and help there. You will start to hear a different way of doing things. In my opinion and experience, it is truly the only way to peace in a situation like yours and like mine. Your daughter is an adult in the eyes of society. It's time you started letting go of doing things for her she can do for herself. If she doesn't, then she takes the consequences. She won't like it, but it sounds like she doesn't like the way things are now either. You are reaching out for help. That is why you posted here. That is a good start. You are ready to do something different. That is the very first step toward peace. Blessings and hugs for you today. [/QUOTE]
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