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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605975" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I'm sorry you had to come back with such bad news. Heroin seems to have come back into fashion as a drug. I was surprised to hear it is "popular" at our closest large high school. You are not alone and, before I even say more, I am glad you are getting help for yourself. </p><p></p><p></p><p>As I read the beginning of your post, I thought (from experience) "This kid is doing more than smoking pot." So the question becomes what can you, as a parent, do about it? The disheartening answer is that until he wants to quit, a feat he can only do by himself, there is nothing you can do for him. You can let him know that if he wants to quit you will support his decision, but you can't make him do it. This, very sadly, is a path that the drug abuser has to walk alone. There is no other answer. Nobody can help him quit. Nobody can make him quit. You have no control over that.</p><p></p><p>I can't imagine him succeeding at college with a heroin addiction, but I am not sure what trying to stop him from going would do either. Likewise, you can put your cruise on hold, but it won't make your son stop using drugs. These are personal decisions you have to make. Whether or not you go on your trip, he will use if he wants to use. It isn't going to stop him if you give up your trip. As a mother, I can understand how you may feel you should cancel your trip though. Maybe we feel just our closeness makes them safer.</p><p></p><p>The best advice I can give you is to keep trying to take good care of yourself and learn to let go of trying to control what your son does. Letting go is huge and relieves some of the stress...</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are going through this. Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605975, member: 1550"] Hi there. I'm sorry you had to come back with such bad news. Heroin seems to have come back into fashion as a drug. I was surprised to hear it is "popular" at our closest large high school. You are not alone and, before I even say more, I am glad you are getting help for yourself. As I read the beginning of your post, I thought (from experience) "This kid is doing more than smoking pot." So the question becomes what can you, as a parent, do about it? The disheartening answer is that until he wants to quit, a feat he can only do by himself, there is nothing you can do for him. You can let him know that if he wants to quit you will support his decision, but you can't make him do it. This, very sadly, is a path that the drug abuser has to walk alone. There is no other answer. Nobody can help him quit. Nobody can make him quit. You have no control over that. I can't imagine him succeeding at college with a heroin addiction, but I am not sure what trying to stop him from going would do either. Likewise, you can put your cruise on hold, but it won't make your son stop using drugs. These are personal decisions you have to make. Whether or not you go on your trip, he will use if he wants to use. It isn't going to stop him if you give up your trip. As a mother, I can understand how you may feel you should cancel your trip though. Maybe we feel just our closeness makes them safer. The best advice I can give you is to keep trying to take good care of yourself and learn to let go of trying to control what your son does. Letting go is huge and relieves some of the stress... I am so sorry you are going through this. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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