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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 668216" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>Kicking him out is helping him. He has to grow up, nothing else will make him do it, he can't be living on your couch partying at age 30 (or beyond) refusing to work. Life is gonna stink for him for awhile until he realizes this, let him blame you or whoever he needs to. Be strong, take no blame and know YOU ARE HELPING HIM. It's ugly for him and soon he will have no choice but to take responsibility for himself, sadly it might not be until the money is long gone. Right now he's thinking he can still do what he wants...he's got $7,000. Most people could start a good life with that, apt. deposit, enough to live on while he finds a job in walking distance..etc. But, not our kids, sadly. I kicked my own son out at 18. He wouldn't work, stole, the same story we all have. He lived in a bed-bug infested rooming house my brother in law helped him get, got a menial job, then a better one, saved money and got a car, an apt, then my husband finally thought he was mature enough to come to work with him. Now he's married, has 2 kids, he moved away and supports himself. He's 28. It came in baby steps, it doesn't miraculously happen overnight. You took a step in showing your son the way to his own journey. And it is his own journey, you have nothing to do with it. It's sad, it totally sucks, I went a very long time without even saying one word to my own son, 2 years, I was traumatized by him. Your son will one day thank you for doing this, I SWEAR, as mine does. It's true.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 668216, member: 2668"] Kicking him out is helping him. He has to grow up, nothing else will make him do it, he can't be living on your couch partying at age 30 (or beyond) refusing to work. Life is gonna stink for him for awhile until he realizes this, let him blame you or whoever he needs to. Be strong, take no blame and know YOU ARE HELPING HIM. It's ugly for him and soon he will have no choice but to take responsibility for himself, sadly it might not be until the money is long gone. Right now he's thinking he can still do what he wants...he's got $7,000. Most people could start a good life with that, apt. deposit, enough to live on while he finds a job in walking distance..etc. But, not our kids, sadly. I kicked my own son out at 18. He wouldn't work, stole, the same story we all have. He lived in a bed-bug infested rooming house my brother in law helped him get, got a menial job, then a better one, saved money and got a car, an apt, then my husband finally thought he was mature enough to come to work with him. Now he's married, has 2 kids, he moved away and supports himself. He's 28. It came in baby steps, it doesn't miraculously happen overnight. You took a step in showing your son the way to his own journey. And it is his own journey, you have nothing to do with it. It's sad, it totally sucks, I went a very long time without even saying one word to my own son, 2 years, I was traumatized by him. Your son will one day thank you for doing this, I SWEAR, as mine does. It's true. [/QUOTE]
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