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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 326491" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>My difficult child was almost impossible to take shopping and our in-home gave us a plan to help...and honestly, I don't see why it wouldn't work for you.</p><p> </p><p>Like I said, it was almost impossible to do any sort of shopping with my difficult child, so the goal was to get in and out of the store successfully. </p><p> </p><p>We made a list. In the beginning, we went to the store every day, with the list. The list had one item on it for me, and one item on it for him (dish soap for me, pack of gum for him, for example) and no matter what happened, we purchased those two items, nothing more, nothing less. (you might want to find you a high school boy to hire to take with you on these outings for a few trips...). We did that several times. </p><p> </p><p>When that went well, I put two items on the list for me and one item for him. We never bought anything that wasn't on the list. Ever. If you are a person who likes to browse and shop, that would be hard, but I think that was the important part - the list is what drove our shopping trip.</p><p> </p><p>Eventually, my list got up to several items (still a short list), and his remained at one. </p><p> </p><p>When that was going well, we'd put a pack of gum on the list for him only and we'd stop and get that. Then the list would only have one item for me and we'd get that. </p><p> </p><p>The idea was that the list drove the shopping trip. My difficult child could see the progress of the list, items being checked off, he's got something on "the list", too, to make it important to him, etc. For us, it worked well. He was younger, and a different problem, but I could see this possibly helping you, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 326491, member: 1848"] My difficult child was almost impossible to take shopping and our in-home gave us a plan to help...and honestly, I don't see why it wouldn't work for you. Like I said, it was almost impossible to do any sort of shopping with my difficult child, so the goal was to get in and out of the store successfully. We made a list. In the beginning, we went to the store every day, with the list. The list had one item on it for me, and one item on it for him (dish soap for me, pack of gum for him, for example) and no matter what happened, we purchased those two items, nothing more, nothing less. (you might want to find you a high school boy to hire to take with you on these outings for a few trips...). We did that several times. When that went well, I put two items on the list for me and one item for him. We never bought anything that wasn't on the list. Ever. If you are a person who likes to browse and shop, that would be hard, but I think that was the important part - the list is what drove our shopping trip. Eventually, my list got up to several items (still a short list), and his remained at one. When that was going well, we'd put a pack of gum on the list for him only and we'd stop and get that. Then the list would only have one item for me and we'd get that. The idea was that the list drove the shopping trip. My difficult child could see the progress of the list, items being checked off, he's got something on "the list", too, to make it important to him, etc. For us, it worked well. He was younger, and a different problem, but I could see this possibly helping you, too. [/QUOTE]
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