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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 326714" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I'm sorry, but I will have to respectfully disagree with those who say taper it off. Your son is old enough to understand. If he doesn't, do your errands when he is in school. I know that is not practical, but a drill for goodness sakes!!!!</p><p> </p><p>Sit that boy down and tell him this has to stop. Tell him that he is causing a financial hardship. Tell him this is not real life. Tell him you give in because you are embarrassed he will do something in the store if you say no. Take your pick...</p><p> </p><p>But 13 is too old to be throwing a tantrum and buying a drill is beyond giving in. Giving in is a pack of gum or a $1 toy is giving in. A drill is no regard for boundries or responsibility. Nip this in the bud now. Next it will be a car!</p><p> </p><p>Having said all that, I have a question about your statement that you could be hurt. Has your son hurt you in the past? Has he made threats to hurt you if you don't do as he says? Many of our teen difficult child boys are bigger than we are. Would he honestly hurt you in public or are you thinking he would wait until you got home and do something? Living in fear of your son is no way to live. If you honestly beleive your son is a threat to you, you need to handle that issue now as well. With his doctor, with the police, with a hospital, whatever. But you need not live in fear. He is learning nothing that will prepare him to take over this life if everyone is fearful of his reaction and gives him whatever he wants.</p><p> </p><p>Two issues. The sense of entitlement has to end. The threat of voilence is not to be lived with.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 326714, member: 805"] I'm sorry, but I will have to respectfully disagree with those who say taper it off. Your son is old enough to understand. If he doesn't, do your errands when he is in school. I know that is not practical, but a drill for goodness sakes!!!! Sit that boy down and tell him this has to stop. Tell him that he is causing a financial hardship. Tell him this is not real life. Tell him you give in because you are embarrassed he will do something in the store if you say no. Take your pick... But 13 is too old to be throwing a tantrum and buying a drill is beyond giving in. Giving in is a pack of gum or a $1 toy is giving in. A drill is no regard for boundries or responsibility. Nip this in the bud now. Next it will be a car! Having said all that, I have a question about your statement that you could be hurt. Has your son hurt you in the past? Has he made threats to hurt you if you don't do as he says? Many of our teen difficult child boys are bigger than we are. Would he honestly hurt you in public or are you thinking he would wait until you got home and do something? Living in fear of your son is no way to live. If you honestly beleive your son is a threat to you, you need to handle that issue now as well. With his doctor, with the police, with a hospital, whatever. But you need not live in fear. He is learning nothing that will prepare him to take over this life if everyone is fearful of his reaction and gives him whatever he wants. Two issues. The sense of entitlement has to end. The threat of voilence is not to be lived with. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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