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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 257132" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>I can only share what has worked for our family:</p><p></p><p>Our son came home to live with us for a period of 6 months to do an internship toward his college degree. He was 21 years old at the time. He was making decent money (about $500 - $600 per week depending on the amount of overtime). We required that he pay rent to the tune of $500 per month because that is an approximate cost of housing in the area. </p><p></p><p>I did not require him to do 'extra chores' around the house because he was paying us rent. I did expect common courtesies such as picking up his own dishes, keeping his room reasonably in order - as in no food under the bed, and a clear fire escape <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. I did allow him to eat with us - as he is our son and was going to college and was adhering to personal goals, etc. </p><p></p><p>We didn't have any 'rules' per say. Certainly no curfews, etc. Again, just common courtesies like if you're not coming home tonight, please call me. He's a good kid and truthfully it was never a problem. Did he sleep a lot on the weekends? Yeah - but he wasn't disturbing us - so whatever.</p><p></p><p>Your situation: I believe hubby needs to be 'the enforcer' or at least behind you 100&#37;. I would hope that his whole plan is not to collect unemployment and sleep all day. I would hope that he is actively pursuing other work or college or something productive. </p><p></p><p>My BFF has a brother who is 40 years old. He works a couple of days per week - sometimes. Other than that, he's home hanging out with his parents. It's a perpetual nightmare for the parents. Don't go there - it's not nice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 257132, member: 1545"] I can only share what has worked for our family: Our son came home to live with us for a period of 6 months to do an internship toward his college degree. He was 21 years old at the time. He was making decent money (about $500 - $600 per week depending on the amount of overtime). We required that he pay rent to the tune of $500 per month because that is an approximate cost of housing in the area. I did not require him to do 'extra chores' around the house because he was paying us rent. I did expect common courtesies such as picking up his own dishes, keeping his room reasonably in order - as in no food under the bed, and a clear fire escape :). I did allow him to eat with us - as he is our son and was going to college and was adhering to personal goals, etc. We didn't have any 'rules' per say. Certainly no curfews, etc. Again, just common courtesies like if you're not coming home tonight, please call me. He's a good kid and truthfully it was never a problem. Did he sleep a lot on the weekends? Yeah - but he wasn't disturbing us - so whatever. Your situation: I believe hubby needs to be 'the enforcer' or at least behind you 100%. I would hope that his whole plan is not to collect unemployment and sleep all day. I would hope that he is actively pursuing other work or college or something productive. My BFF has a brother who is 40 years old. He works a couple of days per week - sometimes. Other than that, he's home hanging out with his parents. It's a perpetual nightmare for the parents. Don't go there - it's not nice. [/QUOTE]
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