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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 91535" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I guess it's semantics, too - what you call ignoring is probably what I'm advocating - to not react as they expect, but to take a totally different direction that is partly distraction and partly a challenge on a friendly level to state their opinions in ways that are not only more acceptable, but are less emotive and more clinical.</p><p>"I don't like that person," then has to become, "I don't like what that person is doing because..."</p><p></p><p>That is the eventual target, but getting to that point, especially making a start to get to that point, needs the individual management and fast thinking on the feet - and above all, NOT reacting how they expect (and to a certain extent want, so they can justify their bad behaviour and continue on their merry way wreaking havoc and emotional destruction).</p><p></p><p>Kids! They certainly keep us busy - I look in the mirror and see the old hag I've become, then pull out an old photo and think, "When did that happen? I looked good in that photo, it was only a few years ago..."</p><p></p><p>But it's kids - all the work and the worry.</p><p></p><p>It must be worthwhile. I keep telling myself that. Because if I walked away, I think I'd probably age even faster, worrying about how they're doing without the constant guidance and support!</p><p></p><p>Here's to wrinkles & grey hair - they are our badges of honour!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 91535, member: 1991"] I guess it's semantics, too - what you call ignoring is probably what I'm advocating - to not react as they expect, but to take a totally different direction that is partly distraction and partly a challenge on a friendly level to state their opinions in ways that are not only more acceptable, but are less emotive and more clinical. "I don't like that person," then has to become, "I don't like what that person is doing because..." That is the eventual target, but getting to that point, especially making a start to get to that point, needs the individual management and fast thinking on the feet - and above all, NOT reacting how they expect (and to a certain extent want, so they can justify their bad behaviour and continue on their merry way wreaking havoc and emotional destruction). Kids! They certainly keep us busy - I look in the mirror and see the old hag I've become, then pull out an old photo and think, "When did that happen? I looked good in that photo, it was only a few years ago..." But it's kids - all the work and the worry. It must be worthwhile. I keep telling myself that. Because if I walked away, I think I'd probably age even faster, worrying about how they're doing without the constant guidance and support! Here's to wrinkles & grey hair - they are our badges of honour! Marg [/QUOTE]
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