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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 91893"><p>I second this. My son is the most happy go-lucky, friendly, sociable, and tolerant kid I know. But when he was depressed, he was toxic to be around. My daughter does the opposite - she turns inward and thinks everyone is laughing at her or saying things about her when they're not.</p><p></p><p>When I see kids behaving in the way you described with your son, I always tend to think of depression and/or self esteem issues. Like another poster said, I'm going to reject you before you reject me. Plus he has the added bonus of pushing Mom's buttons.</p><p></p><p>I really think how you handle it depends on the individual kid and their unique traits. With my kids, I would ask them to quantify their statements. What about the 5 seconds you saw this person made you think that? Do you think that's a fair assessment? When others hear the kind of stuff spilling out of your mouth, do you think they might come to the same snap judgment without knowing you like you just made about them? </p><p></p><p>I think, though, to really tackle this you're going to have to detach somewhat. The fact that he does this more around you means one of two things (or both): 1) he gets a reaction from you and/or 2) he feels comfortable enough around you to say these things. If you can detach from his statements and treat them more clinically (objectively), you take away one of the benefits he has for doing these things and might make it less appealing.</p><p></p><p>Just random thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 91893"] I second this. My son is the most happy go-lucky, friendly, sociable, and tolerant kid I know. But when he was depressed, he was toxic to be around. My daughter does the opposite - she turns inward and thinks everyone is laughing at her or saying things about her when they're not. When I see kids behaving in the way you described with your son, I always tend to think of depression and/or self esteem issues. Like another poster said, I'm going to reject you before you reject me. Plus he has the added bonus of pushing Mom's buttons. I really think how you handle it depends on the individual kid and their unique traits. With my kids, I would ask them to quantify their statements. What about the 5 seconds you saw this person made you think that? Do you think that's a fair assessment? When others hear the kind of stuff spilling out of your mouth, do you think they might come to the same snap judgment without knowing you like you just made about them? I think, though, to really tackle this you're going to have to detach somewhat. The fact that he does this more around you means one of two things (or both): 1) he gets a reaction from you and/or 2) he feels comfortable enough around you to say these things. If you can detach from his statements and treat them more clinically (objectively), you take away one of the benefits he has for doing these things and might make it less appealing. Just random thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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