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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 111828" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>{{{Beth}}}</p><p></p><p>It's true, 'detaching', in theory sounds like a plan, and it is, but it's also something we caregivers must work on constantly. I have been very unhappy lately and I know that part of it is the weather, but most of it is due to the stresses of my life. My Dr put me on an antidepressant and then my other Dr upped it, doubled the dose, because the original dose wasn't doing diddly. While the medication is helping a bit, I still find myself staring into space. And when something enjoyable does happen, I have that impending feeling of doom somewhere in my chest, like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's usually related to difficult child or H. difficult child is a constant concern and I have a feeling she always will be.</p><p></p><p>The books mentioned are very good starting points. I have a few inspirational books like that that I often turn to. Yesterday I went out and bought myself a Franklin Covey planner...as in LIFE planner. It has a few sections, but the parts of it I love the best is that it has a Daily Planning section and a Goal section. The idea is to each morning sit down for a mere 10 minutes and make a doable list of things to accomplish each day. And the idea is to list things not only like "go to the post office and pick up difficult child" but things like "meditate for 10 minutes after lunch", "take a 15 minute walk before dinner", "listen to peaceful music for 15 minutes", etc. IOW, it's about SCHEDULING the time to take care of ourselves, to nurture our spirit so we're not always feeling completely drained, Know what I mean?? And the Goals section, while a tad bit more difficult, is also very exciting for me. It's where you create an affirming statement about yourself, such as "I am happy" and then it has a section where you would write out things that make you happy and another section where you list how to do the things that make you happy (this is just an example). </p><p></p><p>Staples has a few of these planner-type books on sale right now. I picked mine up for $41. I also went to Target and bought a combination calendar/bulletin board/dry erase board for my kitchen. I've already posted an inspirational message on there for me to see just as I leave the house each morning. </p><p></p><p>Beth, try and find ways to inject a bit of peace, tranquility and happiness into your life each day. I don't think it's realistic to expect any one of us to be walking around with a constant upbeat attitude and grin on our faces. However, we can cherish the snippets in our day where we feel joy and peace and inner strength to face the next challenge. It would be good if you would get outdoors and walk for 15-20 minutes each day, just a stroll, not heavy duty power walking. Or pick up an old hobby you've lost track of and see if you're still interested. Buy yourself a CD of an artist you loved when you were younger before you had an H and kids - that's a pick me up to hear all those old tunes! Seemingly small ways to nurture yourself can be provide real boosts of happiness.</p><p></p><p>Hugs~(sorry so long!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 111828, member: 2211"] {{{Beth}}} It's true, 'detaching', in theory sounds like a plan, and it is, but it's also something we caregivers must work on constantly. I have been very unhappy lately and I know that part of it is the weather, but most of it is due to the stresses of my life. My Dr put me on an antidepressant and then my other Dr upped it, doubled the dose, because the original dose wasn't doing diddly. While the medication is helping a bit, I still find myself staring into space. And when something enjoyable does happen, I have that impending feeling of doom somewhere in my chest, like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's usually related to difficult child or H. difficult child is a constant concern and I have a feeling she always will be. The books mentioned are very good starting points. I have a few inspirational books like that that I often turn to. Yesterday I went out and bought myself a Franklin Covey planner...as in LIFE planner. It has a few sections, but the parts of it I love the best is that it has a Daily Planning section and a Goal section. The idea is to each morning sit down for a mere 10 minutes and make a doable list of things to accomplish each day. And the idea is to list things not only like "go to the post office and pick up difficult child" but things like "meditate for 10 minutes after lunch", "take a 15 minute walk before dinner", "listen to peaceful music for 15 minutes", etc. IOW, it's about SCHEDULING the time to take care of ourselves, to nurture our spirit so we're not always feeling completely drained, Know what I mean?? And the Goals section, while a tad bit more difficult, is also very exciting for me. It's where you create an affirming statement about yourself, such as "I am happy" and then it has a section where you would write out things that make you happy and another section where you list how to do the things that make you happy (this is just an example). Staples has a few of these planner-type books on sale right now. I picked mine up for $41. I also went to Target and bought a combination calendar/bulletin board/dry erase board for my kitchen. I've already posted an inspirational message on there for me to see just as I leave the house each morning. Beth, try and find ways to inject a bit of peace, tranquility and happiness into your life each day. I don't think it's realistic to expect any one of us to be walking around with a constant upbeat attitude and grin on our faces. However, we can cherish the snippets in our day where we feel joy and peace and inner strength to face the next challenge. It would be good if you would get outdoors and walk for 15-20 minutes each day, just a stroll, not heavy duty power walking. Or pick up an old hobby you've lost track of and see if you're still interested. Buy yourself a CD of an artist you loved when you were younger before you had an H and kids - that's a pick me up to hear all those old tunes! Seemingly small ways to nurture yourself can be provide real boosts of happiness. Hugs~(sorry so long!) [/QUOTE]
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