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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 70518" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>I am with everyone else on this one ASO. Take it from someone who has been trying to do this for years......it just doesn't work. These AH bio parents just simply don't care. It is mind boggling, unfathomable, and incomprehensible to parents like you and me - but that IS the hard core reality. There is absolutely nothing you can do - except - accept. Accept that this is the life she has chosen. She wants it, likes it, and has decided to keep it - and the best thing you can do for your kids is help them accept this as well.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have decided to have my difficult child do now that he is a teen is attend Al-Ateen meetings. I hope - not sure - but hope that this might give him some understanding into his addict father's head.......and help him finally accept his father for who he is......someone he cannot count on, somone who is completely self absorbed, and someone who, no matter how hard my son tries, will never be the father he wants him to be. This might be something you could start with your kids, if and when, they get older and want to understand why their mom did what she did. But you cannot do this for them. I know......it tears your mommy heart out.......I know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 70518, member: 3301"] I am with everyone else on this one ASO. Take it from someone who has been trying to do this for years......it just doesn't work. These AH bio parents just simply don't care. It is mind boggling, unfathomable, and incomprehensible to parents like you and me - but that IS the hard core reality. There is absolutely nothing you can do - except - accept. Accept that this is the life she has chosen. She wants it, likes it, and has decided to keep it - and the best thing you can do for your kids is help them accept this as well. One thing I have decided to have my difficult child do now that he is a teen is attend Al-Ateen meetings. I hope - not sure - but hope that this might give him some understanding into his addict father's head.......and help him finally accept his father for who he is......someone he cannot count on, somone who is completely self absorbed, and someone who, no matter how hard my son tries, will never be the father he wants him to be. This might be something you could start with your kids, if and when, they get older and want to understand why their mom did what she did. But you cannot do this for them. I know......it tears your mommy heart out.......I know. [/QUOTE]
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