I've been thinking a bunch lately about writing a letter to my difficult children bio mom. I've even started to draft it. Letting her know how the boys are, but letting her know that she can not write. That any communication they may stumble across could derail their healing. I'm going to ask her to open up her myspace publicly or create a new page, so I know how to find her. I want to write this for a few reasons. #1. I want her to know they're okay. If it were me I would desperately want to know this. #2. I want to ask her to clean her act up. When my difficult children turn 18 or even get old enough to drive, they're going to try to find her. If she isn't cleaned up by then, she could get them into a life of self medication. #3. I want to do this for my difficult children. I won't tell them now, but when they become older teenagers, I will share it then. I want them to know I tried my best, for them. That I wanted to keep in touch with her so they could find her one day if/when she was clean. What are your thoughts?