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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 186321" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion, you got involved in a situation that is really not yours to get involved in. You raised your children, your son is trying to let his daughter hit rock bottom so that she will choose to come home and you are stopping that. Whether or not you agree with him or not, it is HIS daughter, not yours. I don't blame him for getting upset. Grandparents trying to "help" wayward grandchildren can put a big kink in how parents are trying to help their kids--and I believe he is trying to help her by not enabling her. I would back off.</p><p></p><p>On the note of how you can fix it, you can't. You can not control your son's reaction to what you do. In fact, you can not control anybody except yourself--NOBODY. I had to learn this in therapy and it's made my life 100&#37; easier. You can't change your granddaughter. You can not force you son to see it your way. You have no control over their feelings/behaviors/reactions. I like "let go and let God." </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. I'm sure others will come along <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 186321, member: 1550"] in my opinion, you got involved in a situation that is really not yours to get involved in. You raised your children, your son is trying to let his daughter hit rock bottom so that she will choose to come home and you are stopping that. Whether or not you agree with him or not, it is HIS daughter, not yours. I don't blame him for getting upset. Grandparents trying to "help" wayward grandchildren can put a big kink in how parents are trying to help their kids--and I believe he is trying to help her by not enabling her. I would back off. On the note of how you can fix it, you can't. You can not control your son's reaction to what you do. In fact, you can not control anybody except yourself--NOBODY. I had to learn this in therapy and it's made my life 100% easier. You can't change your granddaughter. You can not force you son to see it your way. You have no control over their feelings/behaviors/reactions. I like "let go and let God." Welcome to the board. I'm sure others will come along :) [/QUOTE]
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