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Hi family,
Little update: Things are still intense in our home. difficult child is up-down-all around mood-wise. Everything is always dependent on her getting what she feels she is entitled to-at all times.
Behaviorist is finally coming out to do the assessment on the 4th of May. Will be pretty intense, 2 hours with husband and myself, then 4 hours (during dinner and pre-bedtime) with the whole family. He wants us to pick the most pressing issues first. Uh...where do we begin!
Tomorrow we are having our annual end of the school year IEP update meeting. Teacher is ready to throw in the towel as far as difficult child's attitude and work ethic. She is hoping for a group effort to come up with ideas for the remainder of the school year.
This is where I would love some input. Yesterday teacher calls me to confirm the IEP time and then states that difficult child has been off task the entire morning. She went on to say that if difficult child does not get her act together and get her work done, difficult child will not be allowed to participate in the track meet that afternoon. This is difficult child's first year in track and yesterday was her first meet. She is their fastest runner and best long jumper.
difficult child is very challenged in all areas of her life, every area...except for athletics. That is the ONLY area she can proceed with confidence and succeed.
Her IQ is low, she has been diagnosis'd mildly M.R. I know this is not an excuse for not applying herself in her school work. But she has such low self esteem where anything academic is concerned. It saddens me to no end that she is getting to the point of hating school.
With all that being said, do you guys feel it is appropriate for the teacher to use track as a reward/punishment if difficult child is not completing her work, as long as she is trying as hard as she can? I have been in the class (a SDC) and they are given a ton of worksheets to do and then correct their mistakes (over and over in my difficult child's case).
I hate the idea of not allowing her to participate in the one area of school that she loves and is great at-sports. I do understand that if she is misbehaving or refusing to do school work, then of course no extra curricular activities should be allowed. But when I have been there, I saw someone who was doing all that she could possibly do to hold it together and stay on task.
Sorry this is so long, but this is a real tough one and I don't want her to completely refuse school, which is something I can see happening soon.
Thanks for any suggestions.
Hugs, Vickie
Little update: Things are still intense in our home. difficult child is up-down-all around mood-wise. Everything is always dependent on her getting what she feels she is entitled to-at all times.
Behaviorist is finally coming out to do the assessment on the 4th of May. Will be pretty intense, 2 hours with husband and myself, then 4 hours (during dinner and pre-bedtime) with the whole family. He wants us to pick the most pressing issues first. Uh...where do we begin!
Tomorrow we are having our annual end of the school year IEP update meeting. Teacher is ready to throw in the towel as far as difficult child's attitude and work ethic. She is hoping for a group effort to come up with ideas for the remainder of the school year.
This is where I would love some input. Yesterday teacher calls me to confirm the IEP time and then states that difficult child has been off task the entire morning. She went on to say that if difficult child does not get her act together and get her work done, difficult child will not be allowed to participate in the track meet that afternoon. This is difficult child's first year in track and yesterday was her first meet. She is their fastest runner and best long jumper.
difficult child is very challenged in all areas of her life, every area...except for athletics. That is the ONLY area she can proceed with confidence and succeed.
Her IQ is low, she has been diagnosis'd mildly M.R. I know this is not an excuse for not applying herself in her school work. But she has such low self esteem where anything academic is concerned. It saddens me to no end that she is getting to the point of hating school.
With all that being said, do you guys feel it is appropriate for the teacher to use track as a reward/punishment if difficult child is not completing her work, as long as she is trying as hard as she can? I have been in the class (a SDC) and they are given a ton of worksheets to do and then correct their mistakes (over and over in my difficult child's case).
I hate the idea of not allowing her to participate in the one area of school that she loves and is great at-sports. I do understand that if she is misbehaving or refusing to do school work, then of course no extra curricular activities should be allowed. But when I have been there, I saw someone who was doing all that she could possibly do to hold it together and stay on task.
Sorry this is so long, but this is a real tough one and I don't want her to completely refuse school, which is something I can see happening soon.
Thanks for any suggestions.
Hugs, Vickie