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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 176708" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>OMG (snort) you are asking ME to be the voice of reason for my niece? Oooooooooooops weren't supposed to tell you that. </p><p> </p><p>Ack......well here's my thoughts (kisses baby then speaks) </p><p> </p><p>She is here. IF she were to be a Down's kid - you're blessed. </p><p> </p><p>When I got pregnant with Dude I was 24ish. For whatever reason they did this test on me and Dude. I think still it was to see that he wasn't hideously deformed because I told EVERYONE DF did major drugs. Now I would guess they thought I did too despite blood tests etc. But in any event I went for the test. </p><p> </p><p>When I got there they explained to me what it was and what they would do IF the baby were abnormal. (thank GOD their definition of abnormal wasn't difficult child - or Dude would have never been here) </p><p> </p><p>I sat there and thought - and what IF the baby is Downs, or retarded or deformed? Would I really - follow through with abortion? And here is the totally stunning part of all of my pregnancy to which X was a donor and nothing more. Never went to an appointment., made me WAIT on the way to the hospital so he could get coffee, use the bathroom - idiot. So he decides that he NEEDS to go to this appointment. And did. </p><p> </p><p>While they are explaining to me what they will do if they find abnormalities or deformaties - x is sitting there NODDING as if. And I remember saying "WHAT are you nodding about?" and he says "Well if it's deformed or retarded or a water head or something I don't want it and abortion is right to get rid of it before it suffers." And MATERNAL instincts kicked in and I got up - walked out, told them there will be NO test and left. </p><p> </p><p>I didnt consult with x after that - when he brought it up I said "THIS baby or babies will be what they are and will be loved." PERIOD. </p><p> </p><p>Ended up I did not have twins - one of my babies was NOT dead, the father does NOT contribute to the destruction of a fetus no matter how much dope and booze he's had.....and Dude was born 2 weeks early as a birthday present for me....healthy and mad that someone bothered his nap and come to think of it he's been the same way ever since. </p><p> </p><p>If it is a test....that could STOP an abnormality or correct a defect before the baby is born? Why not do it if there are no risks. </p><p> </p><p>If it is a test.....the could STOP an abnormal baby from being born and wouldn't correct anything? Why bother? </p><p> </p><p>If it is a test.....that would give you peace of mind because you are having a baby at 40ish - I think that peace of mind contributes to the general make up of your baby - so I'd be for that. </p><p> </p><p>I think however the most incredible story I have ever read about a baby that they did tests on like you're talking about to a Mother that was in her 20's - was the baby born without a face. Google it - it's the most incredible testament to we'll love whatever we're given in the world. Their little girl literally has no face - and on the interview you see the mom holding up the child in a mirror telling her how beautiful she is.....and she really is. </p><p> </p><p>I think it's either this logic or go get a Magic 8 ball and shake really hard. </p><p> </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 176708, member: 4964"] OMG (snort) you are asking ME to be the voice of reason for my niece? Oooooooooooops weren't supposed to tell you that. Ack......well here's my thoughts (kisses baby then speaks) She is here. IF she were to be a Down's kid - you're blessed. When I got pregnant with Dude I was 24ish. For whatever reason they did this test on me and Dude. I think still it was to see that he wasn't hideously deformed because I told EVERYONE DF did major drugs. Now I would guess they thought I did too despite blood tests etc. But in any event I went for the test. When I got there they explained to me what it was and what they would do IF the baby were abnormal. (thank GOD their definition of abnormal wasn't difficult child - or Dude would have never been here) I sat there and thought - and what IF the baby is Downs, or retarded or deformed? Would I really - follow through with abortion? And here is the totally stunning part of all of my pregnancy to which X was a donor and nothing more. Never went to an appointment., made me WAIT on the way to the hospital so he could get coffee, use the bathroom - idiot. So he decides that he NEEDS to go to this appointment. And did. While they are explaining to me what they will do if they find abnormalities or deformaties - x is sitting there NODDING as if. And I remember saying "WHAT are you nodding about?" and he says "Well if it's deformed or retarded or a water head or something I don't want it and abortion is right to get rid of it before it suffers." And MATERNAL instincts kicked in and I got up - walked out, told them there will be NO test and left. I didnt consult with x after that - when he brought it up I said "THIS baby or babies will be what they are and will be loved." PERIOD. Ended up I did not have twins - one of my babies was NOT dead, the father does NOT contribute to the destruction of a fetus no matter how much dope and booze he's had.....and Dude was born 2 weeks early as a birthday present for me....healthy and mad that someone bothered his nap and come to think of it he's been the same way ever since. If it is a test....that could STOP an abnormality or correct a defect before the baby is born? Why not do it if there are no risks. If it is a test.....the could STOP an abnormal baby from being born and wouldn't correct anything? Why bother? If it is a test.....that would give you peace of mind because you are having a baby at 40ish - I think that peace of mind contributes to the general make up of your baby - so I'd be for that. I think however the most incredible story I have ever read about a baby that they did tests on like you're talking about to a Mother that was in her 20's - was the baby born without a face. Google it - it's the most incredible testament to we'll love whatever we're given in the world. Their little girl literally has no face - and on the interview you see the mom holding up the child in a mirror telling her how beautiful she is.....and she really is. I think it's either this logic or go get a Magic 8 ball and shake really hard. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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